Watermelon Posted May 19, 2017 Posted May 19, 2017 I was talking to this guy, but it didn't work out. I broke it off because he was stringing me along and didn't really seem into me. Well, I admit I've peeked at his instagram. He's 50 (claimed to be 40) and seems to be hanging out with almost nobody except two people who look to be literally young 20 somethings! I'm eleven years younger than he is, but I guess I'm just not cool enough for him because he's hanging out with these 20 year olds, calling them his "posse"...I'm telling you I really do not understand. He's a medical professional with a daughter older than these kids. I know it's great to have friends of all ages, but how would you relate? He told me on the phone that these were his friends and their names, and I know they're the same people. It's more than time to move on from thinking about him, but I'm just wondering what could be the deal.
kendahke Posted May 19, 2017 Posted May 19, 2017 I was talking to this guy, but it didn't work out. I broke it off because he was stringing me along and didn't really seem into me. Well, I admit I've peeked at his instagram. He's 50 (claimed to be 40) and seems to be hanging out with almost nobody except two people who look to be literally young 20 somethings! I'm eleven years younger than he is, but I guess I'm just not cool enough for him because he's hanging out with these 20 year olds, calling them his "posse"...I'm telling you I really do not understand. He's a medical professional with a daughter older than these kids. I know it's great to have friends of all ages, but how would you relate? He told me on the phone that these were his friends and their names, and I know they're the same people. It's more than time to move on from thinking about him, but I'm just wondering what could be the deal. If they're all adults, then no harm no foul. There's nothing here for you to try to understand. If it's not for you just move on. 2
Zahara Posted May 19, 2017 Posted May 19, 2017 The sooner you accept that the rejection has nothing to do with who you are or the value you see within yourself, you'll then have no interest in trying to analyze or understand his behavior.
jjgitties Posted May 19, 2017 Posted May 19, 2017 If he hangs out with two friends that are 20.. so be it. My natural inclination would to be say he is paying for stuff. Paying all the bill then they go out or something like that. But maybe not. Who knows. Who am I to judge. I am in my late 40s. I can't really relate or maintain conversations with 20 year olds. Either way, it doesn't really matter. Do you like this guy? Do you want to be like him and be able to have 20 year old BBFs? I say live your life and be yourself.
hippychick3 Posted May 19, 2017 Posted May 19, 2017 There are a lot of strange people out there...it is pointless and a waste of time to analyze every person who is not for us. The fact that he lied about his age by 10 years alone should be a big enough red flag to "next" him. Not worth your energy to figure out who the 20 year olds are or why they are in his picture. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 19, 2017 Posted May 19, 2017 Why do 20 year old models date aging rock stars? Because they are rock stars. Why do aging rock stars date 20 year olds? Because they can. The guy likes the attention. I find it pathetic but not unusual. 1
Scarlett.O'hara Posted May 19, 2017 Posted May 19, 2017 If I knew a fifty year old guy whose best friends were twenty year old girls, I would not consider him boyfriend material for any mature woman. Either he gets a kick out of surrounding himself with younger women to feel like a stud, or worse, he considers himself at the same intellectual and maturity level. I suspect the latter because you already know he hides ten years off his real age. Evidently, he wants to be seen as a younger man because that is how he feels inside. Unless a man over fifty is extremely attractive or successful, he is unlikely to appeal to twenty year old girls to hang out with as friends, unless he is "fun", ie: provides them with drugs, alcohol, or takes them places. Something else to consider, if he has more in common with a twenty year old girl than someone nearer his own age, then it isn't surprising that he would not have much to talk about with a thirty nine year old. He may have had good intentions trying to date more age appropriately, but this was never going to work. You did the right thing breaking things off. 1
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