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My husband and I were married a little over a year ago. We get on really well, and are extreamly good friends, however I feel no attraction to him at all. We did have sex, however everytime I would be imagining other things in my head just to get turned on. I had told him about this on numerous occasions and given him hints on what he could do to maybe help change that and put the spark back. I always got the answer "this is who I am and I can't change it". So I gave up asking and just accepted the situation.

 

It has been this way for a while starting before we got married. I just assumed that it was because he was stationed across the country (he's a Marine), or that it was normal for people who had been together for a long time, even that I may just be broken.

 

A little after we got married we relocated to NC, and I started a new job. To make a long story short there is a man there that I am highly attracted to and whom I am very good friends with. When my husband deployed I tried to remain close friends with this other man. He kept me sane....However, no matter how hard either of us tried a relationship did start up.

 

I told my husband about it, and he has since returned home. We still get along well, when we are not in a situation that requires anything more then friendship. I have tried to kiss/make out with my husband since, and nothing. No response what-so-ever. I actually get bored and can not wait for it to end. I have tried everything that I know and nothing has worked.

 

We have an appointment with a councilor in two days, which he keeps going back and forth on if he even wants to go. He sees no hope for us, even though I am trying.

 

Has anyone been though this, or know anyone who has? Is there something to be hopeful for, or is he right and I am just diluting myself into believing in something that has no reason to be believed in?

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Originally posted by starbuckkitty

We have an appointment with a councilor in two days, which he keeps going back and forth on if he even wants to go. He sees no hope for us, even though I am trying.

 

MC is the best way for you two to resolve this otherwise the channels of communication will continue to break down

 

By the way.. Many women are at home while their spouses are deployed.. and they don't cheat.

If you were trying you wouldn't have had the affair.. what you are trying to say is that you are trying now that I have cheated on my husband.

But your infidelity may be too much for him to overcome

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