Author girlinNYC Posted May 21, 2017 Author Posted May 21, 2017 The only difference being 'ready' makes is being better able to evaluate the options in front of you. If your head's in a mess and you're in no place for a relationship, you will miss chances even if they walk right by you. If you're not mature enough to know what you really want, you're more likely to get swept off your feet by the nearest sexy disaster rather than a good catch. But it won't magically make the right opportunity come your way. You still have to put yourself out there and get into positions where you meet people. I don't blame you for not looking in bars, I am the furthest thing from conservative and I would still expect most people in bars looking for dates are looking for a night's fun time, not a serious relationship. Just try not to call other people sleazy if they're looking for something you're not, lol. Nothing wrong with a night's fun if that's what everyone involved wants and nobody's cheating or anything, it just isn't what YOU want. I agree. It is a combination of being in the right mental state to be able to pin point an opportunity and going out and making it happen. It's just the latter is hard when without bars/other similar nightspots it's essentially limited to an act of fate? Re bars: if two people hooking up for a night is mutual that's perfectly ok. In my experience with guys in bars, I've exchanged numbers/been on dates however in 100% of cases been lead on or lied to. I'd happily from the outset partake in a hook up if the person in question was straight with intentions from the beginning. I've recently met a guy through work. First person I've liked in a loooong time, even met his sister by chance a few weeks later without knowing they were related. I'd love things to progress with him but that's a new story.
preraph Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 My personal experience is that love comes when you're ready because love comes from within you, and you are ready so you give it to someone, but that that doesn't mean that love will be reciprocated in the way you hope it will be or that the person you love is one you could live with and rely on as a spouse. 1
Author girlinNYC Posted May 21, 2017 Author Posted May 21, 2017 My personal experience is that love comes when you're ready because love comes from within you, and you are ready so you give it to someone, but that that doesn't mean that love will be reciprocated in the way you hope it will be or that the person you love is one you could live with and rely on as a spouse. Very true. 1
bluefeather Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 Hey, if you're ready, then go out and get it. Bam. 1
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