NotASkunk Posted May 18, 2017 Posted May 18, 2017 Ok, so I am a little older. I am 53. I met a guy about three months ago through Facebook and we hit it off really well. He was somebody that I had known about for years but never talked with but once he realized I was single we started talking. Right away I could see he was trying to engage me in what I guess is "cyber sex". I've had phone sex in my younger years and I get that but cybersex has always eluded me because I have just not been single in the generation where it became of age. I don't really get off on a lot of titillating Conversation through the keyboard and especially with somebody that I have not yet met in real life. Before we met I pretty much straight up told him that and he admitted to me that it had been an issue for him and that he has problems in other relationships he had been in with, namely his marriage which he had left. I told him that I am really into face-to-face, touching, relating on 1 to 1 and that I was just comspletely beyond the whole cybersex thing. Once we met we started a relationship that is been pretty steady and satisfying on both of ends. It is not exclusive, I actually have no desire to be exclusive because I don't want to feel weighed down by anybody right now. I am just out of a long-term horrible relationship that I just want to recover from and I'm grateful that I have somebody who I enjoy spending time with and that's really all it is for me. Even with all of that revealed to my new friend, he tries to engage me. Why does this annoy me? I don't care what he's doing outside of what we are doing, I don't have any connection to him to tie him down to just me. He's free to do whatever he wants to. I'm somewhat flattered that he wants to have sexual conversation with me when we're not together, that he's into it that much but at the same time I just don't get it. It's not what I need to get off. I just want him do you understand that Cyber sex does nothing for me and I don't want to engage him in it. And I'm curious to hear what other people who might be close to my age 40+, feel about this sort of thing. Thanks
CptInsano Posted May 19, 2017 Posted May 19, 2017 I don't think it is an age issue, it's just that some people like cyber sex and some don't. The fact that he pushes cyber sex on you is the problem. Cyber sex is not something he can just expect of you. Honestly, just stand your ground and tell him that you're not into it, especially when he has the option of seeing you in person.
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