andrewimecs Posted May 18, 2017 Posted May 18, 2017 Last month I went on a date with a girl I thought would maybe be the one because our date went so well. The date was great and ended off with a kiss and before the date was done we scheduled another date. I was new to dating because I just got out of a 6 year relationship. I was excited and my Oxytocin was running high and I thought I was falling in love again. Turns out I had no experience and constant texting and annoyance pushed her away and resulted in a flake for the second date. That is fine and I learned a very valuable lesson. 2 weeks later I started dating someone else. We had a bunch of common interests, we are both tall and we are both bros in terms of personality. The first date went well which lead to a second where we kissed, then a third, then a forth, and then finally a fifth for now. Between these 5 dates we texted a lot used a lot of snapchat to communicate and I really felt like it was going to work. Frequency was nice and I remembered to not be clingy and needy by being desperate for text messages and snapchats. Unfortunately she said herself that she is a horrible texter and snapchater. On average we would probably send between 5-6 texts a day as well as snapchats. I was fine with that and everything was in moderation which is cool. I said to myself I do not want to fall into the trap of being needy and falling in love in case it didn't work out. But after so many dates my emotions were getting the best of me and I honestly though it was going to workout. The fifth date was great which was on Monday by the way, but I felt like something was either missing or conversations were just a tad stale. We did go to a baseball game which lasted 4 hours and it was hard to talk about stuff especially considering we both nailed down most of our lives through the first 4 dates. After the fifth date we talked about when we were both available and she said probably Tuesday of next week. She also said if anything frees up she will let me know. We kissed and I texted her when I got home saying I had a great night and I appreciate how pretty and awesome she is. She replied saying thank you I also had a fun night good night Andrew. Okay here is where it gets confusing. I know she is a busy girl but something does not seem right. All of Tuesday I got no snaps or texts from her at all. I started off the morning texting her saying I hope she has a wonderful day at work as well as a couple of snaps. It is basically regular routine for us to do that from that point on. The day passed she didn't read her snaps I could tell because it says if they are read or not. No responses for nothing the entire day. At 10 p.m. she responded to my text with an inside joke we made about anchovies and how her tenant made her anchovy pasta. This threw me off because of how late it was. 30 minutes later I responded to her text laughing and saying oh man save some for me how was your day Mrs.Pillar which is another inside joke we have regarding a blue jays baseball player she is in love with. No response again and this is at night time where I know she definitely has her phone and is at home preparing for the next day at work. I message her again very lightly saying anyhow I hope your night was great I am going to hit the hay goodnight and I hope her day goes well tomorrow. No response nothing at all and the next morning I send her a light and funny snapchat. No response and it stayed unread once again for the whole day until 8 p.m. yesterday night. She sends me a snap back and I do not answer it until this morning just so it seems like I am busy as well and had things to do. The snap I sent her yesterday morning basically said How is your day as a Environmental Scientist because that is what she does for a living. The snap I got back that I checked out this morning said in a one word answer "Long" with a pic of a glass of wine. Okay so lets recap all this. We go on five dates and in between all the dates we are texting and snapchatting at least 5-7 times a day. We are in constant contact and had a bunch of phone call conversations and everything was going well. I also actually forgot to mention the last 3 weekends in a row she had a very similar approach to the whole texting and snapchat thing where it would only be once a day or something like that. I assume she is busy and stuff on the weekends which is fine. But during the week is where we reach frequency for texting and snapchatting. Anyhow so after the fifth date just silence and one response a day. It is a total slap in the face because I am not used to it of course and she is giving the general signs of hot and cold, except I feel all the cold now. What the hell am I supposed to do right now? I know we scheduled a "date" for next Tuesday but what if she flakes. I have no clue what to do and I do not want to screw it up. Do I text her, call her, snapchat her? What do I do from here on out to not only get her talking to me again with more frequency but somehow re-attract her if that is the case. The reason I am posting this is because I have no experience and I do not want to screw something up. I know a lot of people will say there are more fish in the sea but this fish I can see a future with. Throw it all on the table and if any questions are needed please ask and I can fill you in so maybe we can nail this issue deeper, thank you everybody!
duncsvoice Posted May 18, 2017 Posted May 18, 2017 Been there, and it reminds me of why I hated dating! Hate to break it to you man, but I think she's checking out of this and she's past the point of no return. I know you don't want to hear it, but there are plenty more fish...
smackie9 Posted May 18, 2017 Posted May 18, 2017 If you have "no expectations" then you wouldn't be here.......and you would be looking for the next woman to ask out on a date. The best thing to do is keep you dance card filled. 1
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