toneman Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 my ex broke up with me a couple of months ago after 2 years. I was pretty cut, since then I have been doing NC. Should i acknowledge her birthday in a couple of days time. She will be 19. What do you think? I haven't spoken to her since the breakup.
ReluctantRomeo Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 How did she feel when you went NC? Was she upset? Or relieved? Are you over her? Would you want her back? Or as a friend?
Beachgrl486 Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 I would just drop her a text or something simple like that. I wouldnt do anymore than a phone call and if she doesnt answer just leave a message saying you were calling to wish her a happy birthday and leave it at that. I wouldnt send her anything. I would just either call and make it short or text. Really it is just a reason to contact the ex...am i right? My boyfriend and i of over a year broke up a few months back and my birthday was the other day and he didnt call or anything...but I didnt expect him to either.
begman Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 My ex girlfriend broke up with me in November. I started NC in February after months of trying to be friends and realizing that she was just playing games with me while she started dating some other guy. I did send her a b-day card in March after about a month of NC. She called my cell and left a message thanking me for the card and she said that I could call her if I wanted. I never did. I now look back on it and think that it was a mistake because it brought up all of those feelings. She then came into the bar I hang out at a week later with some of her friends. She said that I can always email her. I said that it isn't a good thing. She occassionally emails me every month or so. I reply but never send her an email to start anything. My thoughts are that if you still aren't over your ex then sending a b-day card isn't a good idea. It could open up a whole can of hurt. You'll either be hurt if she doesn't respond or if she does and is happy without you that hurts even more. But it is ultimately your call bro.
Rosalind Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 hee hee Reminds me about of the e-card I sent the ex, 4 months after he dumped me. It flipped him the finger, and said "Happy F*cking Birthday". I was stuck in the anger stage at that time....if it was now - well I would certainly view it as just another day and go about my business, no acknowlegement of his B-day.........I wonder why he never called to say "thanks for the lovely card, Rosalind."
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