SURVEY FOR MEN: What do you most wish you could know about women?

[Hopeful30]

I have a friend who is looking to be a dating coach, and she's gathering information about what men would most like to know about women. Feel free to list anything that comes to mind about the following:

 

The female body and sex (orgasms, childbirth, things about body parts, etc.)

Women's emotional responses (why does she get sad/angry/upset when....)

What certain behaviours mean

Red flags or warning signs about [insert here]

Certain things that are hard to understand (her obsession with fashion, why she wants to be spoiled, why she won't tolerate XYZ, etc.)

Ways to approach certain situations (exclusivity talks, commitment conversations, breakups, bringing up uncomfortable topics, etc.)

How (in general) women feel about male things (body hair, porn habits, penis size, approaches to dating, etc.)

 

If anything else comes to mind, please feel free to share! Thanks in advance!

[Imajerk17]

1. I would guess that most guys struggling would like to know the "how to" 's especially when it comes to generating intrigue and attraction. This is from the approach, the first date, the first few dates, ect. Many of these guys struggling tend to be decent guys who do "everything" right, but for whatever reason, women don't feel this elusive chemistry with them.

 

2. Meanwhile, I am somewhat sceptical in general of female dating coaches for guys, as many women seem to be quite unaware of what really drives them. Most women just cannot tell you what was it that made them go for one guy over another, who seemedly even had more going for him too. At least they cannot do so in a way that would give actionable advice to the guy they are trying to advise. I think those who have actually *dated* heterosexual women and have had success doing so, tend to be more qualified to be giving advice.

Edited May 17, 2017 by Imajerk17

[Hopeful30]

I think those who have actually *dated* heterosexual women and have had success doing so, tend to be more qualified to be giving advice.

 

Women who've had successful relationships or dating experience are also quite qualified. They understand what works and can share their reactions and experiences. I think it's great for men to learn from these women. They can follow the example of their relationships or marriages, especially since these women are happily in them. (Well my friend is anyway. She's been married for 8 years and to be honest, lots of people are jealous of their relationship and often turn to her for advice -- I have too, she's pretty wise. I think that's why she's considering this dating coach route.)

 

A woman can understand another woman better than a man can, just how a man understands another man better than a woman. Makes sense.

Edited May 17, 2017 by Hopeful30

[somanymistakes]

Well, when it comes to the mysteries of attraction, any coach is going to struggle a bit because people aren't all exactly the same. Really if you want a good grounding in the subject you probably should speak to BOTH some actual women who know what women are like and some men who are good at the game.

 

More specifically, if you're looking to pick up lots of random girls you probably want to talk to someone with experience in picking up random girls, and if you are looking for a lasting relationship you probably want to talk to someone with experience in one of those...

 

A woman can understand another woman better than a man can, just how a man understands another man better than a woman. Makes sense.

 

It might sound like it makes sense but it's not strictly true. There are women I don't understand at all that some men understand much better than I do, because those women are so completely different from me that I can't comprehend what goes on in their minds. (Like: shoes. What IS it with shoes? I don't get it. Some women obviously do. Some men do too!)

[Imajerk17]

Women who've had successful relationships or dating experience are also quite qualified. They understand what works and can share their reactions and experiences. I think it's great for men to learn from these women. They can follow the example of their relationships or marriages, especially since these women are happily in them. (Well my friend is anyway. She's been married for 8 years and to be honest, lots of people are jealous of their relationship and often turn to her for advice -- I have too, she's pretty wise. I think that's why she's considering this dating coach route.)

 

Maybe. The thing is though, I wonder how many *men* would be seeking relationship advice in the first place. I think men find *attracting the woman in the first place* to be the tough part anyway. I mean, if you are a guy who rocks a woman's world in bed, then it generally will be easy for you to get her into a relationship.

 

I get that for women, it tends to be the opposite. Many women find attracting guys to be easy, it is instead about picking the right guy for a relationship and then making it work that tends to be the challenge for your gender.

 

Meanwhile though, when it comes to advice on how to keep on being the man in the relationship, I'd be getting my advice from....another man. Sorry.

 

 

A woman can understand another woman better than a man can, just how a man understands another man better than a woman. Makes sense.

Many women don't even understand themselves though! Edited May 17, 2017 by Imajerk17

[Hopeful30]

 

 

Many women don't even understand themselves!

 

These are the women that make it difficult for the rest of us!

[CptInsano]

From a dating perspective I would have questions for other men, but not for women. Or in other words, women generally don't pick up other women or get involved with them romantically, and lesbian relationships also differ. I would therefore be far more interested what other men experienced in that regard.

 

As far as the questions in the initial post are concerned, I have asked most of them, and received a wide array of responses. And therein lies the rub: Any average response won't help you, because individual preferences and behaviors vary so drastically.

[SwordofFlame]

As a man, I would never ask a straight woman for dating advice for exactly the reasons already mentioned in this thread.