me decide if I should go on this date or not?

[Glam]

I've been chatting to this guy I met online for around 2 weeks now. This weekend is supposed to be our first date. But I'm concerned about some things he says and if it's normal or not. He seems to be coming on really strong.

 

He's already told me he likes me. He says he "misses" me and when ending the conversation at night he'll say "don't miss me too much". He has said he's "mad about me" and if we lived closer we would of met up much more often and I'd probably be his girlfriend by now. He's always calling me babe, baby, gorgeous. He texts me all the time. When he was out drinking with friends he said he was thinking about me.

 

I text him once saying maybe we shouldn't text as much until we meet this weekend so we don't run out of things to talk about and his response to that was I enjoy texting you so I won't stop unless you don't bother texting back, I'll keep annoying you though.

This guy doesnt even know my last name, doesn't know much about me but seems mad about me? I don't get it. Even more baffling is his age, he's 30 years old! I'm 21 so I'm not sure if this is normal or not. He says he doesn't see the point in playing hard to get at his age, that he knows what he wants.

 

I did kind of get a weird feeling about him, like I couldn't understand why he's so into me so soon. I'm thinking he's a player and says this to every girl he chats to, I don't really believe most of the stuff he says.

 

Any advice on what I should do? Asking here because you guys always give great advice and I'm normally used to the opposite, where guys don't seem interested and never text so maybe it's just me?

[olasp]

This worries me. He should know at his age that texting too much to girls will scare them away. Tell him to calm down. He must respect you. If he doesn't, let him go, because then he won't respect you in the future either. You could tell him this in a playful way.

 

I have a little feeling that he think you're too good to him, and he's afraid of loosing you and doesn't want you to think of anybody else, the jealous type. The same happened to me.. When I met him he was clingy all the time that I couldn't think straight.

[preraph]

He's 30 and you're 20. A lot of guys 30 and older think anyone young is a catch, basically. He doesn't even know your last name much less who you are as a person and he's moving too fast. I don't know whether he is just hoping for sex or something else, but I would be sure you tell him what YOU are looking for in case what you both want doesn't line up. Also, have you Skyped or whatever and seen him in action? He says he's 30 and he could be 45.

[Glam]

This worries me. He should know at his age that texting too much to girls will scare them away. Tell him to calm down. He must respect you. If he doesn't, let him go, because then he won't respect you in the future either. You could tell him this in a playful way.

 

I have a little feeling that he think you're too good to him, and he's afraid of loosing you and doesn't want you to think of anybody else, the jealous type. The same happened to me.. When I met him he was clingy all the time that I couldn't think straight.

 

Well he seems to think texting all the time is okay. Why would he think I'm too good for him? I always compliment him and I never thought of myself as too good. He does kind of get jealous if he thinks im texting other guys.

[Titanll]

Ok Glam...you asked for good advice and here it is. Whether you take it or not is on you.

 

Cut contact and move on.

[act00]

With it being long distance, it seems a little "scammy." The scammers always lay it on really thick, and women fall for it. Proceed with caution.

[basil67]

I'd run a mile from him. It's too much - like he's lost touch with reality.

[mortensorchid]

I would be wary, he's coming on strong. Your age difference doesn't seem to matter in this case, I think he's after sex and he wants to lead you onto do it ASAP. Then dump you.