EA_2132 Posted May 17, 2017 Posted May 17, 2017 I'm 27, I ended it with him. Leaving him and his two children. Feel emotional, guilt, like a let down, don't want to hurt anyone and feel as though i'm throwing away the last 7 years and just generally feel bad. don't want to feel like i'm rewinding and back to when i was 20 is this normal? help!
preraph Posted May 17, 2017 Posted May 17, 2017 Well, it is kind of like rewinding, but in time you'll learn that life isn't always the outcome but it's the journey, so you always want to only stay on a journey if it's more happy than not. Of course you feel bad for the kids, but they'll be okay. You're still young so it's better you are ending it now then 10 years from now. You take some time to heal and learn what you can from that relationship, and then you get social with friends and/or go do things you love to do for yourself, even by yourself, but get out of the house and get active. And also exercise the stress away. This will all help you avoid a downward depressive spiral that you fall into from just sitting around ruminating on what happened and your mind gets in a rut. Watch tv and movies and read books that are all funny and make you laugh. If you can afford even a small trip somewhere, that is to me one of the most curative things. Also volunteer work. Those things expand you and build your self-esteem. So get out there and live life unfettered. I think you'll enjoy it as long as you don't wait on the next relationship before you start living your life and having fun.
Titanll Posted May 17, 2017 Posted May 17, 2017 A couple of more details may help us...why did you leave?
Author EA_2132 Posted May 17, 2017 Author Posted May 17, 2017 I left mainly because we didn't seem to make the effort for each other anymore, we constantly arguing which I no is not good for any of us or the kids. We also had money issues and I got into a small debt which I'm slowly paying off but it's taken it's toll. Lots of little things really
Author EA_2132 Posted May 17, 2017 Author Posted May 17, 2017 And also I found out that he had kissed another women and before he was messaging a women. ( I may have been stupid for staying after knowing this but I just somehow did) but guess I can't fully get over it. He doesn't know that I know about this though :/ I realise that I'm basically the fool!
preraph Posted May 17, 2017 Posted May 17, 2017 don't blame yourself for a situation he caused. It takes experience to learn that if you give people who betray you a second chance, they will usually just take that as they can do whatever they want and you won't leave. And now you're leaving. So good for you.
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