travelgirl3 Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 So, I met a guy about 2 weeks ago and we finally met over the weekend (we hung out on Saturday and Sunday). Before meeting he would always call and text me and we both told each other that we're looking for a relationship as to not waste each others time. We did hook up on Sunday which I regret. I told him that I didn't feel comfortable doing that so soon because I didn't want to come off as easy. He said that his view of me would not change at all and he would still like me. Now, I've noticed that he barely texts me as much and he doesn't call. I mean he does still initiate texts. Yesterday he asked how my doctor's appointment went and today he said good morning and to enjoy the beautiful weather. Do you think I'm just over-reacting? I guess I'll see if he makes plans for us to hang out this week/weekend.
Knix Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 I don't think hooking up with him so soon was a good idea, but what's done is done. He may be pulling back because he got sex and now he's bored. Guys like the chase, or he may just not be as excited about the whole thing anymore. When a guy pulls back after meeting it means he's not interested. He is keeping you on the backburner and saying nice things in case he wants another hookup. In the future don't hook up with someone right away like that, you're giving away all your cards upfront and then it's just not fun anymore. 1
smackie9 Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 The proof is in the next time you hang out together..... 1
victoria88 Posted May 17, 2017 Posted May 17, 2017 If anyone can understand men, please explain us... I also do not understand them. Well I am trying but it is not easy. If only they could talk more, explain easily what they feel, what they like, what they do not like...It would be so much easier. p.s. Sometimes I wish I had a thoughts-reader...
kendahke Posted May 17, 2017 Posted May 17, 2017 If anyone can understand men, please explain us... I also do not understand them. Well I am trying but it is not easy. If only they could talk more, explain easily what they feel, what they like, what they do not like...It would be so much easier. p.s. Sometimes I wish I had a thoughts-reader... Ask them what they think, not what they feel. Some people are more guarded with their feelings than their thoughts. Keep your expectations in check and within reason for the amount of time you know them. Doesn't matter if you talk up a storm on the phone or text like there's no tomorrow; if you haven't spent face to face time with them and witness how they react in various situations and circumstances over the course of time, then you don't know them. No two people have the exact same life experiences that make them who they are in the present moment. When you let go of the notion that a guy is an opposite sex carbon copy of you and all of your life's experiences, the easier it is to understand them.
kendahke Posted May 17, 2017 Posted May 17, 2017 So, I met a guy about 2 weeks ago and we finally met over the weekend (we hung out on Saturday and Sunday). Before meeting he would always call and text me and we both told each other that we're looking for a relationship as to not waste each others time. We did hook up on Sunday which I regret. I told him that I didn't feel comfortable doing that so soon because I didn't want to come off as easy. He said that his view of me would not change at all and he would still like me. Now, I've noticed that he barely texts me as much and he doesn't call. I mean he does still initiate texts. Yesterday he asked how my doctor's appointment went and today he said good morning and to enjoy the beautiful weather. Do you think I'm just over-reacting? I guess I'll see if he makes plans for us to hang out this week/weekend. Some men drop back on their texting and communication with or without having slept with them quickly. Some people just don't text if they feel they don't need to because what will there be to talk about when they see you in person? Now, it's not like he's dropped off the face of the earth. He did ask about your doctor's appointment and he's still initiating texts. Anything wrong with you initiating texts? Chances are, he's talking to other girls, so you may or may not hear from him this weekend. You two just met, so there is no exclusivity yet. Curb your expectations until such a time as you and him have a conversation about how you both want to proceed with one another. He's just a guy you're getting to know, not your boyfriend.
Titanll Posted May 17, 2017 Posted May 17, 2017 If anyone can understand men, please explain us... I also do not understand them. Well I am trying but it is not easy. If only they could talk more, explain easily what they feel, what they like, what they do not like...It would be so much easier. p.s. Sometimes I wish I had a thoughts-reader... Not to hijack OP's thread but I'm a man. What do you need explained? I have a question for women. Why do you settle for the BS that you settle for? OP says that she had sex with the guy, she wanted to but didn't want to. She regrets it. Dude bangs her and goes cold...time and time again I read the same sad story. I seriously ask this questions: Is there a shortage of men where you are? Are you so unsuccessful at finding a partner that you settle for some questionable guy? Do you not have enough self control or intelligence to not get yourself in these situations? I mean, guys that can sweet talk you into bed and then move on to the next conquest exist only because there are some willing women that allow them to exist, right? OP regrets sleeping with the guy but I didn't see where he forced her. Hell, I thought guys were the ones that can't control their desire! Oh wait, I get it! If I sleep with him, he will love me forever. And you think guys put the P on a pedestal... 1
preraph Posted May 17, 2017 Posted May 17, 2017 Men who push for sex right away and then judge you for having it are men who don't really like women as people to begin with. But you don't know that's why he's backed off. Maybe he decided he didn't like your personality. Granted, then he shouldn't have had sex with you but that happens all the time.
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