htrj Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 Been on Match for a few months and had a few dates from it. I've also encountered more than a few scammers. Women who laugh at every joke message and then insist that I must send them money so that they can buy a plane ticket to get them home from their modelling job that they have not been paid for and then we can consummate our undying love for each other through to women who just want to get chatting by email only. Currently I am chatting to two women. One is originally from Minsk, which immediately sounds the alarm bells. She is now living in a region of Spain that I visit every few months and would like to move to in time. She has not done anything to raise my suspicion other than tell me she is from Belarus. The other is more local to me. She is a student, currently under pressure with her studies, too busy to meet for a couple of weeks, has lost her phone but wants to share photos with me by email, although she says she doesn't mind if I don't want to give my email address out. Now, I might just be being paranoid from having encountered the other more obvious scams but at the moment I can't rule out that these women might be genuine. I'm hoping you good people can suggest how I could flush these women out if they are scammers with out freaking them out if they are genuine. Looking forward to hearing your views.
PegNosePete Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 The first one, why bother? Even if she is genuine, do you want a relationship or a holiday romance? The second one, even if we assume she's genuine, again how can that turn out well? She is too busy to meet for a couple of weeks so how will that turn into a relationship? She will presumably also be too busy to have date #2 for a couple of weeks after that. Why would she want to share photos by email? Doesn't she have photos on the site? Lost phone eh, how many people go without their phone for more than a week? Sounds fishy to me. Even if they are genuine, which is pretty unlikely, you should move on. You're just wasting your time. There are plenty of people on there who you can meet without having to jump through hoops.
Miss Spider Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 Don't date these people even if they're not scammers(I'm leaning towards believing they are) One is too far and the other doesn't have time for you...yet she's on a dating site Don't bother 4
Author htrj Posted May 16, 2017 Author Posted May 16, 2017 Thanks for that, I woke up this morning to the message from the second person I mentioned and the more I think about it the more I become confident she is not on the level. Jesus, though. If I was really lonely and even only slightly less cynical than I am, I can see how someone could come unstuck against people like this. The Russian woman. Put the distance thing aside for a moment please. That could actually work out very nicely for me if she is genuine. What would arise your suspicion about her, if you have one?
PegNosePete Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 The Russian woman. Put the distance thing aside for a moment please. That could actually work out very nicely for me if she is genuine. What would arise your suspicion about her, if you have one? The fact that she is talking to someone who lives many miles away from her. Who messaged who first? 1
CptInsano Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 Yes, in the context of a dating site anybody who is not local to you is a scammer, unless you are looking for foreign women in particular. 3
Author htrj Posted May 16, 2017 Author Posted May 16, 2017 I wrote to her first. When we started talking, we both seemed to accept that it probably wasnt going anywhere but had a laugh anyway. Looking back through the messages she wanted to stop talking me about a month ago, saying, get in touch when you move down here, but I seemed to keep her on the hook without trying, just chatting casually. 1
CptInsano Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 I wrote to her first. When we started talking, we both seemed to accept that it probably wasnt going anywhere but had a laugh anyway. Looking back through the messages she wanted to stop talking me about a month ago, saying, get in touch when you move down here, but I seemed to keep her on the hook without trying, just chatting casually. Then I have to ask what it is that you are looking for. Just a chat or something more?
SoThatHappened Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 Anyone named "Olga" (or something similar) from "Russia" (or somewhere similiar): 1. It's a scam. 2. Why even entertain the long distance thing? 2
Redhead14 Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 Been on Match for a few months and had a few dates from it. I've also encountered more than a few scammers. Women who laugh at every joke message and then insist that I must send them money so that they can buy a plane ticket to get them home from their modelling job that they have not been paid for and then we can consummate our undying love for each other through to women who just want to get chatting by email only. Currently I am chatting to two women. One is originally from Minsk, which immediately sounds the alarm bells. She is now living in a region of Spain that I visit every few months and would like to move to in time. She has not done anything to raise my suspicion other than tell me she is from Belarus. The other is more local to me. She is a student, currently under pressure with her studies, too busy to meet for a couple of weeks, has lost her phone but wants to share photos with me by email, although she says she doesn't mind if I don't want to give my email address out. Now, I might just be being paranoid from having encountered the other more obvious scams but at the moment I can't rule out that these women might be genuine. I'm hoping you good people can suggest how I could flush these women out if they are scammers with out freaking them out if they are genuine. Looking forward to hearing your views. You schedule a meet up soon. The first time you meet someone from OLD, it's a short meet up -- a cup of coffee or a couple of drinks, just to confirm that they are who they say they are and look like their pictures. You don't spend much money or much time on this. If things seem to "jive", and you like them enough, then you make a real date. I would be suspicious of the one from Minsk, but you never know. Don't waste a ton of time chatting/texting, etc. and building up a vision in your head about them and creating a false sense of bonding, etc. Confirm/eliminate quickly if you have some initial interest. If they are dodgy about meeting, then you have your answer anyway. And, do not ever, send money or help them in any way if they ask for it.
smackie9 Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 IMO you don't chat for weeks, you send a few messages then ask them out for a quick coffee date, say 30 to 45 mins. If you can accomplish that you are half way there to starting something. They can't seem to meet up, or give you an excuse about how they are busy, blah blah blah, delete them, and move on. So much time saved.
Author htrj Posted May 16, 2017 Author Posted May 16, 2017 Then I have to ask what it is that you are looking for. Just a chat or something more? Originally, yes. Ill admit it, I wanted to chat with women in Spain so I could practice my Spanish. In that respect "Olga" has already been a great success.
scubasteve Posted July 2, 2017 Posted July 2, 2017 look up modeling seminar scams. I always get them but when pinball them out they get mad and will yell at me
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