Here again! Celebrity ex girlfriend!

[Jamieeaston]

So guys back again after 2 or so years apart. My last relationship severely affected my for a long time but I eventually got over her and found somebody new to love! Which was a positive but I'm back so I suppose isn't so good haha.

 

A bit about me now then, very successful job which people seem to love, I'm good looking but I have severe self esteem issues brought on by my dad basically abusing me and I have been in and out of therapy for years.

I'm 29 now, and have honestly only had 2 relationships including the one that has just ended, I find it hard to connect or find women attractive and have very high expectations, I wish I wasn't that way but I'm currently in a serious conflict of character.

 

So why am I back? Well last week a relationship which I was absolutely in love with ended. A lot of the reasons why are because of me and the hard thing is the girl I was with is an up and coming celebrity who is absolutely gorgeous, talented and men absolutely adore her.

 

We were together just short of a year or so, our common theme of being whores Over the years actually meant we kicked off quite well and gradually fell more and more in love with each other, I slowly felt myself opening up and we had the most amazing first 6 months together.

 

Then my job started gettting increasingly harder, I couldn't sleep as much and she was getting busier and busier. I could feel myself getting more and more clingy and since I don't have any family I felt like she was becoming my only friend who I could talk to. I have anger issues (all of my issues I'm going through therapy to help with) and would snap at her for no reason. Sometimes I'd feel myself waiting for her to mess up so I could kick off. the worst thing was that I didn't even get jealous of the thousands of men or celebrities who would flirt with her etc, yet I couldn't control my anger.

 

She put up with it for months but I could feel her slipping away slowly, losing interest, not making plans and going from a girl who I knew adored me to someone who was just waiting for the right time. We broke up, then 3 weeks later she messaged me saying how much she missed me and how she had taken me for granted also, don't get me wrong it wasn't all me but I feel therapeutic writing it all down in here. She also had a short fuse and do to her job was always on her phone. She would make time for her friends but towards the end often used me as just an option and she also knew my issues but didn't go out of the way to help. We got back together after a long few weeks of talking. But once again the arguments came, until finally she broke up with me

 

Now getting over my previous girlfriend was hard and she had no social media, but seeing the one you love flirting with fine specimens has probably been the hardest thing I've dealt with relationship wise. Today I text her saying I wish her welll for the future I got, "thankyou, take care" back. She went out at the weekend and has never been a girl who was afraid to have one night stands when out of a relationship. I think I can see what happened.

 

Anyway the reason I'm writing on here is because I know I'm going to struggle to find someone who I adored, felt so proud of, got spoilt by and knew so much about me. She was absolutely beautiful and made me laugh every time we spoke apart from the arguments. I know I'm going to have her pop up throughout my relaxing evenings watching television and am worried that I will compare every person I've ever met to her. I'm genuinely gutted I let my issues affect something that was going so well. Any advice on what to do now would be much appreciated

[preraph]

Yes, it will be harder to forget about her if she's high profile, but at the same time, did you ever see this lasting forever? I mean, I lightly dated some famous guys whose music I liked, but due to the geographics, I never really thought it could get serious. I still like their music and just remember it as good times and got a song or two written about me, so win/win, as far as I'm concerned.

 

Glad she has no social media. Not sure how she gets away with that since usually companies and managers will demand you have a sight and even run it for you to keep popularity up. But you should do what you can to avoid following what she's doing. Ask friends not to update you.

 

And advice is same for you as anyone else, which is stop contacting and don't agree to just be her friend she leans on unless you really can be content with that and still date other women and give them a real chance.

 

Do things you really enjoy, things that make you happy so you don't spiral downward. Exercise aggressively to keep the stress in check. Meanwhile now might be a good time to take anger management if that's been an issue for you. Travel is always good to keep one lone woman in perspective. It's a big old world out there with billions of women. Doing volunteer work maybe once a week for a couple of hours is another way to get perspective and to feel good about yourself while helping others or animals. Get busy doing activities and be social and don't let yourself talk about her when you're being social and change the subject if someone brings her up. Good luck.

[Jamieeaston]

Thankyou for your reply!

 

I meant my previous ex had no social media, this recent one lives on it! I became so absorbed in her life that often I felt like I spent more time on it with her then actually with her.

 

I did see it lasting, we both work away long term so seeing each other apart from weekends worked for both of us. Obviously the more fame she's got the busier she has got but she always made time for me. I think I'm finding this hard as although she had her flaws, I was the significant factor in this ending. My anxiety and anger issues just made it so hard for me to love properly.

 

Im into my exercise and have blocked her on everything and deleted her number, I have no intention of being just her friend. I think I am an over emotional person and take a lot of things to heart, so for her to act like she doesn't care and has moved on so quick has made me feel like it was all a lie.

 

Thanks again for your advice

[Maldives]

Yours is certainly different wth the celebrity twist.

 

Need more info on when you say it was your issues? Regardless, she moved on pretty quickly from the sounds of it dude, going out wth other dudes she sounds like she may have a big ego and likes a lot of attention.

[Maldives]

Thankyou for your reply!

 

I meant my previous ex had no social media, this recent one lives on it! I became so absorbed in her life that often I felt like I spent more time on it with her then actually with her.

 

I did see it lasting, we both work away long term so seeing each other apart from weekends worked for both of us. Obviously the more fame she's got the busier she has got but she always made time for me. I think I'm finding this hard as although she had her flaws, I was the significant factor in this ending. My anxiety and anger issues just made it so hard for me to love properly.

 

Im into my exercise and have blocked her on everything and deleted her number, I have no intention of being just her friend. I think I am an over emotional person and take a lot of things to heart, so for her to act like she doesn't care and has moved on so quick has made me feel like it was all a lie.

 

Thanks again for your advice

 

And yes same same here i can relate to this. Its certainly confusing and unfortunatly I don't have an answer for as i'm struggling understanding my own situatioin...not much help am i lol sorry dude, i think it worse to say something with certainty wen deep down ur not sure. I can tho certainly share in ur pain i feel it

[preraph]

Thankyou for your reply!

 

I meant my previous ex had no social media, this recent one lives on it! I became so absorbed in her life that often I felt like I spent more time on it with her then actually with her.

 

I did see it lasting, we both work away long term so seeing each other apart from weekends worked for both of us. Obviously the more fame she's got the busier she has got but she always made time for me. I think I'm finding this hard as although she had her flaws, I was the significant factor in this ending. My anxiety and anger issues just made it so hard for me to love properly.

 

Im into my exercise and have blocked her on everything and deleted her number, I have no intention of being just her friend. I think I am an over emotional person and take a lot of things to heart, so for her to act like she doesn't care and has moved on so quick has made me feel like it was all a lie.

 

Thanks again for your advice

 

Sorry for the misreading of it about the social media. Yeah, you're doing it right just staying away from her social media. But really, since you think your emotion contributed to the breakup, this is a good time to take anger management or get into therapy. Anger management is a short course targeted at understanding and controlling your anger. I have seen it really benefit someone who wanted to change. It will teach you thinks like that your anger comes from fear and different things and then once you understand yourself where it's coming from, it's easier to control and then tells you how to change your behavior that way. Some courts recommend it for people who are high functioning but otherwise have moments of uncontrolled rage. That comes usually from childhood pain that kind of got hard-wired, but not always.

 

Anyway, anger management is less expensive than ongoing therapy, so I'd start there. Good luck.

[Tiga]

Thankyou for your reply!

 

I meant my previous ex had no social media, this recent one lives on it! I became so absorbed in her life that often I felt like I spent more time on it with her then actually with her.

 

I did see it lasting, we both work away long term so seeing each other apart from weekends worked for both of us. Obviously the more fame she's got the busier she has got but she always made time for me. I think I'm finding this hard as although she had her flaws, I was the significant factor in this ending. My anxiety and anger issues just made it so hard for me to love properly.

 

Im into my exercise and have blocked her on everything and deleted her number, I have no intention of being just her friend. I think I am an over emotional person and take a lot of things to heart, so for her to act like she doesn't care and has moved on so quick has made me feel like it was all a lie.

 

Thanks again for your advice

 

 

You did the right thing blocking her, contact with her will just delay your healing. I completely understand that you can't be friends with her if you have feelings for her. I also love deeply and fight for love and I know it can feel like the end of the world once you have been let down. You know you aren't able to move on quickly and it is surprising to you that she can, how could she if she loved you? I completely understand but unfortunately have no definite answer. The question I ask is how can someone that truly loved you or loves you leave you?

 

 

I don't get it, but I do know that people's perception of love is different.

I am sorry you are going through this but keep NC and focus on yourself.