Sparklebabe Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 (edited) I met a guy 2 weeks ago and we got on really well we kissed and swapped numbers and when he said bye he said he missed me already He text me everyday since then and we arranged a date. He took me for a meal and cinema and we both enjoyed it. After the date he messaged me saying he would love another chance to see me again and he said he was quiet because he was so nervous. On the date we also talked about our next date Then a couple of days later he messaged me saying have i done something wrong and it turns out that my text never sent so he thought I was ignoring him. He said he wanted to text me all day but he thought that he had done something wrong We then carried on speaking as normal and then all of a sudden he read my last msg and hasn't replied now for 3 days, I don't know what to do I really like him Should I just msg him one more time to see if he replies or should I wait or move on? Thank you Edited May 13, 2017 by Sparklebabe
act00 Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 Do you like him? Do you want to see him again? Yes, text. Ask how his weekend is going. If he doesn't respond, move on. It sounds like you've sat back and waited for him to initiate everything and have given him little in return. It doesn't surprise me that he stopped, since you have indicated by your actions you really aren't interested. He stopped texting for a couple of days with no reciprocation, and then broke down and asked if he had done something wrong since you don't seem to be initiating any contact and aren't very forthcoming on your feelings. That's a bit of a suggestion that you really need to pick up the rope and participate if you want anything to happen with this guy. Give and take...text him if you want to keep him.
smackie9 Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 He sounds like a nervous nelly and over analyzes everything.....that kind of guy needs a lot of encouragement. Yes message him and let him know you are interested in seeing him again. He texts you everyday since the beginning, that should indicate the level of communication he expects from you.
Miss Spider Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 Sounds like a player to me (srs) This is seriously an angle some of them play "did I do something wrong?" Your text went through. Guys who are genuinely nervous don't say it like that. They don't say "I miss you already" right after a date. Just be wary of this guy. Stuff ain't adding up
d0nnivain Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 Call him. Don't text. Call him. It sounds like he was trying & the technological glitch threw him off. I'm not sure how you know your last message went through even knowing that one didn't post but take the bull by the horns. If he says no, at least you can stop fretting. Maybe he'll say yes. Going forward rely less on technology & more on voice & in person interaction.
Miss Spider Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 Oh ...how many times I've used the "I never got your message!" Or "did my message not go through?" After ghosting someone (not proud, did it in my youth) and deciding maybe I should have given them a fair shot. The chances of a text message not going through are very,very slim. More often, it's an excuse from someone who simply changed their mind after other options didn't pan out. He might come back all like "darn, something must be wrong with my phone!"
Mkn1010 Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 Sounds like a player to me (srs) This is seriously an angle some of them play "did I do something wrong?" Your text went through. Guys who are genuinely nervous don't say it like that. They don't say "I miss you already" right after a date. Just be wary of this guy. Stuff ain't adding up Just curious, what makes you think that the above is a player line? I definitely don't get that impression when I receive the above type of texts. Players don't even notice (yet alone care) if there's a lag in communication, in my experience.
Miss Spider Posted May 15, 2017 Posted May 15, 2017 Just curious, what makes you think that the above is a player line? I definitely don't get that impression when I receive the above type of texts. Players don't even notice (yet alone care) if there's a lag in communication, in my experience. I have read it on seduction/pua message boards. They get ' distracted'and don't text for awhile and then they come back with the excuse that YOU are ignoring them. It's a manipulative reversal. I have used it too in a way. I ignored a guy once because another guy got my attention. It ended with that guy and I came back to the other guy and said "haven't heard from you in awhile. Hope all is well" ignoring his last text. I did this a couple times. Not my proudest moment. He finally called me out on it in a respectful way and I was finally honest. But yeah, I've seen it discussed on seduction boards for how to resurrect yourself from ghosting. It's not cool, but some people do it. I get the vibe this guy is not shy/self conscious because if he was he wouldn't have come on so strong saying he "misses her", then going cold for days. He'd either come on strong because he's awkward and really likes her, or he'd act aloof/ignore her because he's really likes her but doesn't want to come on too strong. Just my opinion. You really need to watch for consistency in behavior 1
amaysngrace Posted May 15, 2017 Posted May 15, 2017 I wouldn't read too much into it if I were you. People get busy sometimes and it's not like you're in a relationship with him or anything yet, are you?
Knix Posted May 15, 2017 Posted May 15, 2017 He sounds insecure about things. It could be that he likes you and he's pulling back, because after the incident where your text didn't send he probably freaked out and realized he needed to chill out. It could also be that he is dating more than one person and you aren't on the forefront of his mind anymore.. just possibilities. Just act like everything is normal, idk about you but when someone is purposefully waiting to respond to my texts I get annoyed and don't want to play the game. Just respond like you normally would and if he keeps doing that ask him if he's still interested.
preraph Posted May 15, 2017 Posted May 15, 2017 He may say he's shy but he's yanking your chain and playing games and I hope he's at least dating other women and genuinely busy and not just pretending to be. Don't just sit back and keep going along with it if you're looking for someone serious. You have to stick to your boundaries and show him you're not just going to sit around until he wants you. Go date.
Author Sparklebabe Posted May 15, 2017 Author Posted May 15, 2017 met a guy 2 weeks ago and he started texting me everyday and we went on a date that went really well and we talked about our next date. After the date he text me saying how he would love another chance to see me again and said he isn t usually that quiet but he was just so nervous. He text me more after the date and seemed more interested. Then 2 days later he text me saying have i done something wrong? Anyway it turns out that my last text to him didn t send so he thought I was ignoring him. He said he wanted to text me all day but he thought he had done something wrong. Anyway we cleared that up an carried on speaking as normal and then on Wednesday he read my message straight away and never replied. 3 days later I then messaged him to ask if he's ok and he replied a day later saying hey I'm good what about u hun. I then replied asking how his weekend was and he has read the message hours ago and not replied I don t get how he can go from really liking me to this within 2 days!! Please help!! Thank you
Miss Spider Posted May 15, 2017 Posted May 15, 2017 (edited) Just let him go and focus on other guys Edited May 15, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
Mkn1010 Posted May 15, 2017 Posted May 15, 2017 If he has enough time to read your messages, but doesn't reply, it's because he has chosen not to. It doesn't really matter why, it only matters that this is inconsiderate towards you. But if I was to guess, I second what others have said about him being butt hurt from the time he thought you didn't reply and he sounds really insecure, almost like he's now punishing you for it or this is his lame attempt at feeling like he has the power in this. Either way, it's game playing and anytime he feels insecure about where he stands with you, he will not be one to communicate about it like a grown up!
ExpatInItaly Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 (edited) He's lost interest. I would not message him again. You say you don't get how he can go from liking you a lot to ignoring you. I understand that, it's confusing. But you also barely know him. Perhaps he is exactly the type to do these sorts of things. Where did you meet him? Edited May 16, 2017 by ExpatInItaly
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