Azza123 Posted May 15, 2017 Posted May 15, 2017 Hey everyone! So it has been about 1 month of no contact with my ex-girlfriend. It wasn't an ugly split, she just stated that she felt things weren't going anywhere and had been still for a little while. I wasn't hugely shocked as she had seemed a little different the last few times we hung out, but it still hurt. During no contact I have focused on myself. I have exercised a lot and taken up old hobbies that I hadn't done for a while such as playing the piano and drawing. At times I have felt great, other times I have missed her so incredibly much. I want to break no contact and hear how she is, and slowly but surely see if we can get back together. Since the split I have seen on her snapchat story and heard through the grapevine that she has become somewhat reclusive, especially to meeting new people. She has gone out a few times but just with friends and got very drunk but hasn't rebounded or gotten with any guys. This is quite different to her behaviour when we were dating which was quite outgoing and more measured with her alcohol consumption, she also used to never really update her snap story. Do these signs indicate that she's missing me and maybe I should break the NC? Are there other signs to look for? What behaviours have you guys observed from your ex's that made you feel like it was a good time to break NC? Thank you all!!
PegNosePete Posted May 15, 2017 Posted May 15, 2017 Well firstly you aren't even in NC. Did you read the NC guide? You've been cyber stalking her, reading tidbits and hearing things through the grapevine (is. asking friends about her). That is NOT NC. So when you talk about breaking NC, you have to realise that you're not even in NC in the first place. What behaviours have you guys observed from your ex's that made you feel like it was a good time to break NC? The only reason to break NC (if you're in it, that is) is when she tells you she wants to try again. Anything less than that, and you're just going to get hurt. 3
PogoStick Posted May 15, 2017 Posted May 15, 2017 You can break NC when you're 100% over your ex and are totally accepting if things NEVER work out. For there to be some kind of chance, I suggest 6-12 months. Wait until after her next relationship falls apart. Then she might reconsider how good things were with you. That's a long time. So you might as well have fun with some other women in the meantime.
d0nnivain Posted May 15, 2017 Posted May 15, 2017 What do you mean break NC? You haven't even started it. If you are still connected by social media, you are still in contact. Since she broke up with you, there is nothing you can do at this point to repair things. The time to make her love you was before she left you. Just because a month has gone by does not mean she misses you. She's happy to be single. You misunderstand NC. It's not about making somebody miss you. It's not a period for self improvement to rekindle a relationship. It's a time of healing for you so you can move on with your life, without the person who dumped you. Delete her off all social media. Block her # on your phone. Then start day 1 of NC to heal your heart from the pain of being dumped. She is not coming back. 2
preraph Posted May 15, 2017 Posted May 15, 2017 She's done, so despite what you may have seen in the movies, there's no point in continuing to pursue her. So your goal at this point is to stop watching and waiting and hoping and learn to move on and not give a crap anymore. Women don't just take someone back because they haven't met who they want yet. They're just not that desperate and needy, at least most of them. That's not how it works. Good luck.
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