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I met this guy a month back and we instantly hit it off. We exchanged numbers and kept in touch.

He reached out and he set up a date for us last night. The date went really good, and him and I were really into each other .

I haven't been this excited about a man in forever... We were drinking at this party we went to afterwards and chatted about how we had a mutual attraction.

He drove me home and we ended up sleeping together.

I know that isn't a good way to start off with a guy but it just felt natural and I went with it.

We texted a couple times and he said our date was "beautiful in everyway" .. I told him that I'd call him when I get back from vacation and he said "great! Have a great time"

Now I'm questioning if a screwed up everything by sleeping with him so soon.

I really like this guy and wondering what my next step should be.

Would I look desperate asking him out on a second date?

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No relationship worth having has ever been ruined by sex.

 

Great relationships have been ruined by creating problems where none exist. Get my drift? Relax.

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I met this guy a month back and we instantly hit it off. We exchanged numbers and kept in touch.

He reached out and he set up a date for us last night. The date went really good, and him and I were really into each other .

I haven't been this excited about a man in forever... We were drinking at this party we went to afterwards and chatted about how we had a mutual attraction.

He drove me home and we ended up sleeping together.

I know that isn't a good way to start off with a guy but it just felt natural and I went with it.

We texted a couple times and he said our date was "beautiful in everyway" .. I told him that I'd call him when I get back from vacation and he said "great! Have a great time"

Now I'm questioning if a screwed up everything by sleeping with him so soon.

I really like this guy and wondering what my next step should be.

Would I look desperate asking him out on a second date?

 

He's suppose to do it. Unless you really like this guy? Having sleep over or having a sleep over and sex is common today shoot I do too.. If they really enjoyed your company and they're really into you both emotionally/physically then you'll be on many dates. If not then you'' soon find out the truth..

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No relationship worth having has ever been ruined by sex.

 

Great relationships have been ruined by creating problems where none exist. Get my drift? Relax.

 

Yes, not having sex in the early stages of getting to know somebody is seen as a protection of not getting played. You are not scaring somebody genuine away by having sex with him.

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Not at all but you will ruin things if you act all weird about it now. Go on your vacation. Keep in touch. Have another date when you return.

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Thanks guys. Would it be weird if I asked him out on a second date?

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First date sex isn't going to determine whether this goes anywhere. He either liked you for relationship purposes or he didn't, before the sex ever happened.

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Thanks guys. Would it be weird if I asked him out on a second date?

 

What was good once is worth repeating. Go ahead, ask him.

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Thanks guys. Would it be weird if I asked him out on a second date?

 

I wouldn't hesitate to ask him. As a man, I am flattered to have a woman ask me for a date.

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Thanks guys . My anxiety is feeling better

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Thanks guys . My anxiety is feeling better

 

You should not feel anxiety over a guy you saw once, even if you slept with him. You are putting way too much expectation on a man you know nothing of. You don't even know if he's nice yet.

 

So if you want to see him again go ahead and invite him on a second date. If he says yes then sweet, if he says no then nothing lost.

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We texted a couple times and he said our date was "beautiful in everyway" .. I told him that I'd call him when I get back from vacation and he said "great! Have a great time"

Now I'm questioning if a screwed up everything by sleeping with him so soon.

 

It's too early to say, as you two haven't interacted enough to make that determination.

 

If he's into you, this won't be a problem.

 

If he's not, then this is where he'll stumble.

 

I really like this guy and wondering what my next step should be.

Would I look desperate asking him out on a second date?

 

I don't think so. Desperate would be blowing up his phone all week long and crying and melting down when you finally do get him on the phone.

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