Gary335 Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 (edited) I met a girl on Match exactly one week ago today. We talked for a few hours, hit it off well, and before we logged off I gave her my number and told her to feel free to text if she'd like. Sure enough, the next morning I got a text from her. We stayed in touch for most of the next two days, and during that time I asked for and got a date with her. We met Friday afternoon, had a great time, and I ended it with a hug and kiss on the cheek. I texted her later saying I had a great time, and wanted to see her again. She said I was a great guy, and agreed to see me again. We are supposed to be getting together this Tuesday. Last night she went out with her best friend, and around 10PM I started getting crazy texts from the friend (drunk I'm guessing, and on my date's phone) that made no sense. They said things like she's now gay, my penis made her do that (she hasn't yet seen it), I'm hiding in your bushes, and just a bunch of selfies of herself and other crazy stuff. Didn't pay it much mind, figuring they were drunk. Sent her a Happy Mother's Day text this morning (she's a mother), and did not hear from her. Sent another text this afternoon asking if she was alright, and still have not heard from her. What do I make of this? How did it go from "you're such a great guy!" to crazy drunk texts from her best friend, and now silence? Am I missing something? We were having no problems that I know of. I certainly didn't think last night that I'd be sitting here right now having not heard from her at all. Edited May 14, 2017 by Gary335
lolablue17 Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 It is actually very odd with no sense at all. The only thing I can think of is that the next morning she felt so embarrassed, so she chose to cut you completely as long as she doesn't have to face you with this. But my idea isn't very logical too... I don't know. I don't think you want to date a girl like her, right? Maybe if she was calling you the next morning and apologizes 100 times, you could take it, but her behavior is completely indecent and shows mach about her true character. 1
Author Gary335 Posted May 14, 2017 Author Posted May 14, 2017 She just texted me saying she thought she was ready to date again, but now feels like she's not and it's not fair to me if she doesn't know what she wants. Guess I have my answer. She'd only been away from her ex (her daughter's father) for maybe 6 months, probably less. Should have seen this coming. Shame on me.
kendahke Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 She just texted me saying she thought she was ready to date again, but now feels like she's not and it's not fair to me if she doesn't know what she wants. Guess I have my answer. She'd only been away from her ex (her daughter's father) for maybe 6 months, probably less. Should have seen this coming. Shame on me. Watch and see if her profile becomes inactive. In fact, start a new profile just to check. I'm suspicious over the friend texting you on her phone. I'd never let my friend text any guy I was seeing, nor would I reach for her phone and text to a guy she was seeing. I'll bet her friend talked her out of going out with you because she just got her drinking buddy back and doesn't want to lose that. If she wasn't ready to date again, why is she on a dating site? Would be different if she was on a meet up site or some site for people with similar interests--but she's on a dating site.
Titanll Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 Next. Why lose sleep over her? Honestly, she told you where she stands. Why waste time trying figure her out?
Author Gary335 Posted May 15, 2017 Author Posted May 15, 2017 (edited) She's still on the site, and I expected no different. She did show up as being hidden for a split second, but then she was visible again that quickly. I'm already talking to another girl though. I told this one she's welcome to call or text if she gets her self straight and wants to date again, and left it at that. Pretty sure kendahke is right, though, about the friend having something to do with this. That was my suspicion as well. I had the same thought line you have, why would she let her friend do that? And why would her friend WANT to do that? It's funny, when I told the girl I was the guy she was seeing, she seemed very angry about that fact. Edited May 15, 2017 by Gary335
Titanll Posted May 15, 2017 Posted May 15, 2017 Again, who cares about her friend? You're asking like maybe there is some hope here. I mean do you want to get involved with this train wreck?
Author Gary335 Posted May 15, 2017 Author Posted May 15, 2017 Again, who cares about her friend? You're asking like maybe there is some hope here. I mean do you want to get involved with this train wreck? I'm not asking anything, and I'm not getting involved with anything. Just making conversation off of the other poster's points. I posted that after making this thread I got a text from her. I have no doubts or questions as to what is going on. Had I received that text about 5 mins sooner this thread wouldn't even be here. 1
coolheadal Posted May 15, 2017 Posted May 15, 2017 She just texted me saying she thought she was ready to date again, but now feels like she's not and it's not fair to me if she doesn't know what she wants. Guess I have my answer. She'd only been away from her ex (her daughter's father) for maybe 6 months, probably less. Should have seen this coming. Shame on me. She's telling you goodbye and good luck (other than that she really saying I am not interested in you anymore your not my type, or she's just going back to her ex. Women with kids and you don't have kids will be very hard life indeed if you try to get anyway with them. Anything strange like you said in your first post that's a BIG NO NO! Now the excuses are coming in. Red Alert Excuse!
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