Sarang22 Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 Dear all, I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years now and i love him a lot. Everything was wonderful for the first 2 years and i could definitely see and feel how much he loved me. His eyes would sparkle when seeing me, he told me very often how much he loves me and how much he wants to marry me. He always made time for me no matter what and he made me feel important and needed. We passed through hard moments for our relation 2 years ago and things started changing between us. I still love him the same, my heart still explodes every time we make eye contact and i told him recently i love him forever and that i want to marry him. His parents dislike me but i am trying to win them back. My family likes him and told me its up to me what man i choose. My boyfriend told me 6 months ago that he is not so sure anymore about getting married to me. He kneed twice in the beginning of our relation, proposing twice to me, and then he broke the engagement recently reiterating that marrying me is not certain anymore. My heart is shredded and i cry so often that i got chronic eye pain. I really love him a lot. He gave me different arguments for breaking off the engagement. First time, it was "what if we get married and you don't like that i snore or that i might go camping?" I lived with him before and i know how bad he snores and i don't care if he goes for a night to sleep outside so i answered him that. Then he told me its because i might move back to my home-country in case my family needs me. I told him in such case i would need him to be there for me. He used to be such a great man that would climb mountains to get to me, but now he is acting all chicken about decisions regarding us. When i talk about serious topics he rarely says something and starts acting cute for cuddling time or angry and dismissive. I am lost, confused and broken. I love him so much and it hurts so so bad the fact that he is not so into me anymore. I don't even have friends to talk to about it, somehow i ended up from being a very sociable person to one that has no friends. I miss my boyfriend, how lovely he used to be, and i try to talk to him, but it seems he doesn't get it that he broke my heart bad. Any advice please? Thank you.
d0nnivain Posted May 15, 2017 Posted May 15, 2017 How engaged were you? I don't ask facetiously. You said he "kneed twice" early on in your relationship & asked you to marry him & then you mention that you recently asked him to marry you. So I'm serious when I ask was this a real engagement or were you two just talking? At this point I think you two need to talk more. Snoring seems a trivial reason to break up but I also get the sense you are young & the daunting reality of forever may be dawning on him.
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