Ex boyfriend talks about me to his cousin and stalks my social media!

[Ishax]

I have found out my ex boyfriend has been using his cousin to stalk me through social media.. As recently she "likes" and "commented" on my posts which she hasn't done before. She has always done this when she wants something, it follows a pattern.

 

My issue is how can I confront and solve the situation? Obviously I will unfriend and block her. I don't understand why he's talking about me since he broke up with me and chose his family over me.

 

Basically, we were together for 3 years and we broke up due to his family not approving of us. He got a new girlfriend, whilst he was her he tried to reconcile with me twice through his friend and cousin. He stayed with his girlfriend for the sake of it, quite sad. I didn't say anything, I just left him to it. It's his life at the end of the day.

 

Then fast forward over 18 months, he spoke to me and I figured he just wanted to be friends. It's been so long since we broke up, I thought there's no need to be petty just let it go. That was in July 2015 and he officially asked to reconcile in September 2015.

 

Now his cousin has been helping him by keeping an eye on my profile despite having a new girlfriend. I mean I could be wrong, but my gut instinct says to he wants to reconcile. It is weird though, I mean what exs cousin continues to like and comment on posts? He's been trying to make me jealous aswell, but idk.

 

What do you think he wants? I don't know what to do. They blatantly talk about me and watch my profile ��

 

I don't think he's moved on to be honest and he's just angry/annoyed I'm not giving him a reaction like I used to.

Edited May 14, 2017 by Ishax

[MidwestUSA]

You answered your own question.

 

Block her. Block him as well, if you haven't already. Don't read anything positive into his or her intentions. Why torment yourself?

[act00]

How do you know they "blatantly talk about (you)," and what makes you think this cousin is stalking you, and at the prompting of your ex? Where is this information coming from? If these people are toxic, stop all contact. Unless you have children together, you really have no reason to continue any relationship with your ex or his family. If you developed a friendship with some of his family, I'm sorry for your loss, but you need to remove yourself from your ex, and this means losing these other people. It sucks, but it's necessary.

 

Solution: No more contact with your ex-boyfriend or his family. Block them all from your social media.

[Ishax]

How do you know they "blatantly talk about (you)," and what makes you think this cousin is stalking you, and at the prompting of your ex? Where is this information coming from? If these people are toxic, stop all contact. Unless you have children together, you really have no reason to continue any relationship with your ex or his family. If you developed a friendship with some of his family, I'm sorry for your loss, but you need to remove yourself from your ex, and this means losing these other people. It sucks, but it's necessary.

 

Solution: No more contact with your ex-boyfriend or his family. Block them all from your social media.

 

It's because I've been friends with her since 2013 on Facebook and she's never liked/commented my posts. Recently, she's been doing a lot.

 

She also made tweets about caste, which is the reason why we broke up. So she's the only one on his side to approve of us being together. She's also in a relationship with someone from a different caste.

 

I blocked my ex on everything. I just left his cousin because she didn't used to do anything until now.

[Ishax]

You answered your own question.

 

Block her. Block him as well, if you haven't already. Don't read anything positive into his or her intentions. Why torment yourself?

 

I've blocked him already. I didn't block her because I didn't feel the need to.

[preraph]

Block her too. Maybe he should just marry his cousin.

[Altair0770]

I'm a bit confused. He broke up with you and tried to reconcile with you and you... rejected? If you don't want a relationship with him, block him and his cousin and everyone trying to stalk you on social media.

 

Same thing is happening to me (except my ex hasn't made any attempts to reconcile). She stalks me daily, but I don't want to live my life in ways to completely avoid her so I keep my Twitter public (Twitter sucks if private). All anyone has to do is make a new account to view a public account.

 

All we can unfortunately do is ignore it until they fade away. Any interaction will cause more of it. If you want him to leave you alone, just pretend he doesn't exist.

[Ishax]

I'm a bit confused. He broke up with you and tried to reconcile with you and you... rejected? If you don't want a relationship with him, block him and his cousin and everyone trying to stalk you on social media.

 

Same thing is happening to me (except my ex hasn't made any attempts to reconcile). She stalks me daily, but I don't want to live my life in ways to completely avoid her so I keep my Twitter public (Twitter sucks if private). All anyone has to do is make a new account to view a public account.

 

All we can unfortunately do is ignore it until they fade away. Any interaction will cause more of it. If you want him to leave you alone, just pretend he doesn't exist.

 

Yeah he tried to reconcile 3 times.

 

I've blocked him on everything. I didn't delete his cousin because I figured she didn't approve of me so no point. She wouldn't help him.

 

However, he doesn't have the guts to stalk to me himself because of his ego. His family always thought I chased him but I showed her screenshots of him wanting to reconcile. I know I shouldn't have, but it's too late now anyway.

 

I think it is best I block his cousin of social media. That may be the way forward..

 

I just find it his behaviour hurtful.

[Ishax]

Block her too. Maybe he should just marry his cousin.

 

They're all just weird and bunch of hypocrites.

[preraph]

^ Yes, and overly wrapped up in each other.

[Ishax]

^ Yes, and overly wrapped up in each other.

 

I agree, I don't understand what he wants or what he's achieving by doing this. It's all just pathetic.

[Ishax]

^ Yes, and overly wrapped up in each other.

 

I don't understand why he's talking about me in the first place

[Ishana]

Basically, long story short.

 

My ex boyfriend's cousin has been allowing my ex to stalk me through her social media account.

 

Should I confront her about, yes or no?

 

Tbh, I'm really close to unfriending her and I want to find out why she has been doing this. Then unfriend and block her likewise I did with her cousin. He his blocked off everywhere. I will block his sister to just for precaution.

 

He has also been trying to make me jealous, I ignored it because I thought I was being delusional. His cousin/family or whatever has no reason to like my posts and comment, I thought she was just being nice and I did the same back.

 

Correct me if I'm wrong, but we broke up because of his family not approving of us ok fine. We were together for 3 years and have no children together. He has done this before (rebound relationship thing). She has NO reason to maintain contact with me. Quite frankly, I would be very angry if my boyfriends family was doing this to me.

 

Ps, I didn't delete her because I thought she never approved of us so she wouldn't allow this happen. Any solutions, should I confront this? It's been going on for months.

[flysolo]

Basically, long story short.

 

My ex boyfriend's cousin has been allowing my ex to stalk me through her social media account.

 

Should I confront her about, yes or no?

 

Tbh, I'm really close to unfriending her and I want to find out why she has been doing this. Then unfriend and block her likewise I did with her cousin. He his blocked off everywhere. I will block his sister to just for precaution.

 

He has also been trying to make me jealous, I ignored it because I thought I was being delusional. His cousin/family or whatever has no reason to like my posts and comment, I thought she was just being nice and I did the same back.

 

Correct me if I'm wrong, but we broke up because of his family not approving of us ok fine. We were together for 3 years and have no children together. He has done this before (rebound relationship thing). She has NO reason to maintain contact with me. Quite frankly, I would be very angry if my boyfriends family was doing this to me.

 

Ps, I didn't delete her because I thought she never approved of us so she wouldn't allow this happen. Any solutions, should I confront this? It's been going on for months.

 

Block her and move on. You never have to worry about this again.

Why ask? Either you want reassurance for the move or there is something you're not telling us.

[basil67]

If you want to keep her as friend, don't *confront*. Instead, have a discussion about how you feel and ask her to stop.

 

If you don't care about her, just quietly block and delete her on all platforms.

[Ishana]

Block her and move on. You never have to worry about this again.

Why ask? Either you want reassurance for the move or there is something you're not telling us.

 

I want to know why she's been doing this to me.

 

I mentioned this in my post, but she never approved of me and her cousin being together however recently last year she had a change of heart. I saw the tweet she made about something related to me indirectly. After that, her cousin told him about us and since then she's kept liking my posts and commented. I ignored it because I thought I was being silly.

 

I was thinking along the lines of asking her if she's been doing it. That way I'm not accusing her.

 

My close friends have said I'm being thick and she blatantly allows him to stalk me. As she never liked my posts before this much and when she did she wanted something.

[Ishana]

If you want to keep her as friend, don't *confront*. Instead, have a discussion about how you feel and ask her to stop.

 

If you don't care about her, just quietly block and delete her on all platforms.

 

I do genuinely like her, she was nice to me regardless of everything. She has comforted me when I needed her. Even though she didn't have to.

 

I think you're right. I should just ask and not confront her, that's a little mean.

 

How do you think I should word it?

 

Would this be okay "*****, have you been allowing **** to stalk me thorough your social media accounts?"

 

What's a better word for stalk?

[flysolo]

Err.. now that you explain it like that it seems like a small issue to me. She likes your posts/comments, and you think this is rude?

It's a bit weird to ask someone "Hey, why are you liking all my posts and comments?" because it's what people do. It's what SNS is for.

People are supposed to like posts and comments. They don't have to, and it's not weird if they do.

[Ishana]

Err.. now that you explain it like that it seems like a small issue to me. She likes your posts/comments, and you think this is rude?

It's a bit weird to ask someone "Hey, why are you liking all my posts and comments?" because it's what people do. It's what SNS is for.

People are supposed to like posts and comments.

 

No, it's because she's always done this when she wanted something from me. She has done this to me before. What's added fuel to fire is my ex has been trying to make me jealous.

 

They all secluded me and made me feel like I wasn't welcome in the family, so I'm surprised she's being this nice to me now.

 

It all started when she made that caste tweet. Plus my ex's sister has always been very egotistical against me as I'm a lower caste than them and they're higher. She used to make so many tweets about me, religion caste and parents. I have screenshots saved I don't know why. It was soo hurtful. Now she's made no tweets because she realised her brother always pursued me.

 

I showed her screenshots of him asking for a last chance because I was fed up. Now he wants another last chance and she knows.

Edited May 21, 2017 by Ishana