d0nnivain Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 Isn't a FWB and player the same thing? I have never thought so. To me, two people can agree to be in a FWB situation -- sex but not dating, no feelings. Players IMO scam the other person into thinking there is a real relationship there or at least a possibility of one. They wine & dine or sweep someone off their feet & as soon as the thrill of the chase is gone, so are they. 3
joseb Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 He also asked me how many guys I have slept with, and said that my number doesn't really matter to him since"you are all mine now" which I think is very sweet. Really? I don't think it's that sweet, it's just talk. Probably hoping you won't sleep around much while sleeping with him. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. And as for fwb in general, are you expecting it to be some sort of completely cold interaction? Because it's not. People usually like the people they sleep with. Doesn't mean they want monogamy or a relationship. 2
Author lily999 Posted May 14, 2017 Author Posted May 14, 2017 Really? I don't think it's that sweet, it's just talk. Probably hoping you won't sleep around much while sleeping with him. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. And as for fwb in general, are you expecting it to be some sort of completely cold interaction? Because it's not. People usually like the people they sleep with. Doesn't mean they want monogamy or a relationship. In my opinion, if we are just FWB, we are allowed to sleep around. I casually dated a few guys before him, none of them asked me not to sleep with other guys. They could call me"baby" or even say something like "I love you", but would never ask me to be with them only. Yeah I know, everyone is different
preraph Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 Isn't a FWB and player the same thing? It's definitely splitting hairs, but Donnivain makes a point. Still my point is being an FWB you know up front their sleeping around if they want to and don't want commitment, so that's pretty close to being a player, but he's just not having to lie about it. Yet.
preraph Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 It's not rare for someone to catch feelings for his or her fwb. At the beginning I was OK to be just fwb, then I started to like him. Doesn't necessarily mean I want him to be my boyfriend. It's not one sided thing, two have to agree to be in a relationship. If I can't handle it I will just move on. Not hard to understand It's not rare, but it is rare for them to catch enough feelings that it makes them totally reverse on what they want, which is to not be committed. You can have feelings and still have no intention to commit to someone. Anyway, don't settle for that. It's not you.
Miss Spider Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 It's not rare for someone to catch feelings for his or her fwb. At the beginning I was OK to be just fwb, then I started to like him. Doesn't necessarily mean I want him to be my boyfriend. It's not one sided thing, two have to agree to be in a relationship. If I can't handle it I will just move on. Not hard to understand It's way more common for only one person to catch feelings for their FwB. Usually the one who all along was using sex as leverage for a relationship the other party point blank told them they did not want. And you're right, it's not one sided. The more invested party falls deeper and deeper until either 1) the less interested one gets their fill and fades out/ignores them/says they've met someone else or 2) The more invested one just gets tired of wasted time and emotional investment on someone who won't "buy the cow" months to years later, so they finally limp away. FwB that work out are rare and usually don't go this way. 2
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