Waechel Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 (edited) Broke up with my bf on 18th april, he told me that he couldn't put in anymore efforts into this relationship and that he was unhappy. He is 23 and I'm 22. I know I used to be very controlling and clingy, but I've started to change ever since I moved back home. (About 3 weeks before we broke up) I have been staying at his house ever since the start of our relationship of 3 years. But ever since I moved back, he just doesn't seem to find me anymore and I'm always the one initiating contact. He told me that he wanted to 'go all out' at going out with his friends. Plus he just got out of National service.. So basically he's at another phase of life whereby he needs to start looking for a job. I've tried going NC but I failed a few times.. I begged for him to come back which didn't work. I told him I've changed but he's still firm on his decision. He didn't want the relationship anymore and he have been keeping himself occupied Everyday. Going out with friends and enjoying life. He still have feelings for me but he did not initiate any contact at all. I wanted to meet up with him to pass him his house keys but he kept using the 'I'm going out later' excuse. I know I should probably restart my NC period.. I'm not sure if I'm delusional, but I think that he's confused. It's both our first relationship. I really need some advice.. cause I know I messed up a few times and even begged him to stay. Not sure if it means anything but he even told me not to think so much, when I was crying and talking to him about our relationship. I thought he left me because he's interested in someone else. He didn't change his Facebook password too, and when I asked him why, he told me that he has nothing to hide.. It's so confusing.. Edited May 14, 2017 by Waechel
BeyondSay Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 This is going to be difficult for you, at times agonising, but it seems he has made his decision and you absolutely must stop contacting him by any means necessary. The more you contact him the more desperate you'll look and that is not attractive. You need to write his number down on a piece of paper and put it somewhere safe then delete his number from your phone. The quicker you do this, the quicker you move on. Focus on you, go on holiday, go traveling, hit the gym to relieve some stress, join a new sports club, meet new people. Get out of your comfort zone! You're only 22. Get out there and be single. Because if there's one thing I can guarantee - your ex hearing you desperate down the phone vs the new outgoing you who is enjoying her life.. well need I say who I'd pick in that situation? Good luck
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