Risha7 Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 I was with my ex for bout 5 years , we were so in love physically and emotionally but then i don't know what happen he start looking at another girl at his college and went into relationship without revealing to me and he revealed it through his WhatsApp story once i got to know i send him break up messages and when he try to contact me i answered his call told him i don't love him anymore and don't contact me anymore after that i never message him or call him till now. This happened I'm February . in march i met a guy online and we came across same situation we had feelings for each other and fall in love we are together for 2 months now.its a ldr yes i chooses because physically i wanted to avoid boys .but this guy I'm currently with i started to love him a lot he too he even introduced his family through Skype he does look serious in our matter. Yes i love this guy he really make me feel special to him he is not like my ex.today i accidentally came across my ex's current gf Instagram and noticed her name was my like her name followed by my ex name , even my insta name is mine and my current partner but i could digest seeing that suddenly my mind started thinking my ex was mine and why he did this to me...is he really happy, does he wants to talk to me but I'm definelety not texting him 1st i also dream my ex texting me and asking how i am and sorry last night.i dong know if I'm over him yet because i cried few seconds today.I'm not going to him again if he come back i don't want to accept him because i know he doesn't deserve for any cost !!! I'm very sure about it but what is this feeling happening to me i have no idea.P s : my current bf keeps me happy there is no less in him .
ExpatInItaly Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 You're not over your ex and you're not ready for a new relationship. It doesn't make sense to get involved with anyone when you want to avoid men, physically. It's not realistic and it's not love. It's a distraction and a fantasy, in the sense that you're not dating him and have never even met this person (if I understand correctly) Take your time to heal - on your own. It's not fair to the new guy when you have these feelings about your ex. You're looking for ways to stop the pain and fill a void, but this isn't the healthy way to do so. 1
Author Risha7 Posted May 14, 2017 Author Posted May 14, 2017 You're not over your ex and you're not ready for a new relationship. It doesn't make sense to get involved with anyone when you want to avoid men, physically. It's not realistic and it's not love. It's a distraction and a fantasy, in the sense that you're not dating him and have never even met this person (if I understand correctly) Take your time to heal - on your own. It's not fair to the new guy when you have these feelings about your ex. You're looking for ways to stop the pain and fill a void, but this isn't the healthy way to do so. Yes i knew it i was not over my ex maybe its the memories that haunting me. But I'm not sure if I'm really ready for new relationship but i do like my current partner alot and we are planning to meet soon and i care bout him too
d0nnivain Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 5 years is a LONG relationship at your age. He was your HS BF, I presume. It was awful for you to find out about his cheating through social media. However for you to go out & "meet" some new guy on the internet & date him on an LDR basis because you don't want to deal with boys is very unhealthy. At best this guy is a rebound. At worst you are hiding from the reality of your break up & afraid to be alone. That's why you jumped right into this new relationship. For you to say you love this new guy because you Skpye with him is absurd. You can't have the depth of feeling & connection with him as you shared with your EX when that relationship was going well. It's way too soon for him to introduce you to his family; you are pushing things too fast for such a short amount of time. You don't need a BF, LDR or otherwise, right now. You have to process the loss of your childhood BF. Until you do that you won't be able to form a meaningful connection with anybody else. Also block your EX off ALL social media. You don't need to see what's going on with him & the new girl. Spare yourself the pain.
preraph Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 He was cowardly how he just moved on without letting you know and you did the right thing blocking him. I'm sorry. I know you were probably kind of emotionally dependent on him since you were so young. But I see good news here, which is that you are somewhat resiliant and didn't have much trouble finding a new love interest and him liking you back. That shows you are able to get guys and kind of like the guys you get. It doesn't mean he has to be the one or that it has to be anything but a couple months of fun. You don't have to jump all they way into a serious relationship. So just try not to use your past relatiionship as a measure of how your next one will be. Just relax and try to enjoy and get to know each new person and just enjoy the journey of getting to know them. If they work out, fine. if not, you had a little fun and expanded your social circle. I'm glad you're interested in other guys. Just take it at your own pace and don't try to make each one of them become a big relationship.
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