Gracieboo Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 As the title says this is a ramble, my thoughts, frustrations and conclusions reagarding "last night events." I work as a server at a popular bar where famous/semi-famous musicians often play. Last night we had this semi-famous young guy and I really enjoyed his music but had no idea who he was. At the end of the show, he kept staring at me. I would look his way, stare for 5-10 seconds and look away. But whenever I looked at him, he just kept staring. Even when talking business with the club owner, he kept looking over his shoulder. If I smiled or gave some sign, I am 100% sure, he would have talked to me. But I never did and actually talked to another band memeber. Anyway, I felt this intense chemistry and kept thinking about him on my way home. In the morning, I googled him and read few articles about his career and personal life. Well, I found out he has a gf and they are living together in LA. She is actually his high-school gf and they have been together for years now. She is not super pretty but she is ok (Curiosity got better of me and I checked her instagram and their pics are all over it). His instagram, however, has zero pics of her/them. So, common sense is that this guy probably has ONSs in different cities all over the world. If I talked to him or went out for a drink, I would have been just another of many. And, he is probably a cheater. What's annoying is that my romantic, female side wants to believe that he is actually a nice guy, who is in a relationship but just happened to like me a lot. (pathetic, I know). I am embarassed to even entartain these thoughts but it is what it is. Anyway, just frustrated with myself, wanted to share my observations but didn't want to bother my friends. And btw, this is not the first guy that (wanted) hit on me. There were few others, but I could tell from a mile that they were ladies men, and some would mention their gfs in the conversation but still ask me out. Of course, I never went out with any of them and never gave it a second thought. Why would this guy be different? It is actually sad that he is in a long term relationship and acts like he was single.
Miss Spider Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 He's a semi-famous musician. 95% of them cheat on their SOs with hookups (yea, that's all they are) on the road. His gf probably knows but looks the other way since he comes home to her. No big surprise.
Author Gracieboo Posted May 14, 2017 Author Posted May 14, 2017 He's a semi-famous musician. 95% of them cheat on their SOs with hookups (yea, that's all they are) on the road. His gf probably knows but looks the other way since he comes home to her. No big surprise. I know Cookies. Just because he looks like a nice person, it doesn't mean he is a good guy/bf. And, I am still questioning it, even when I have the evidence (his behavior vs instagram pictures). They will still be there on Sunday night, and I am so glad I have found out about his relationship status. Not that I would expect anything from him, but I would have probably had a drink with him. 1
Miss Spider Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 I know Cookies. Just because he looks like a nice person, it doesn't mean he is a good guy/bf. And, I am still questioning it, even when I have the evidence (his behavior vs instagram pictures). They will still be there on Sunday night, and I am so glad I have found out about his relationship status. Not that I would expect anything from him, but I would have probably had a drink with him. He could be a nice guy. He could be one of the 5% who keeps it in his pants. That's why he didn't approach you. He just looked. I'm sure it gets lonely and it's nice to look at pretty things and no crime in that, but doesn't mean he wants to take it further than that. Who knows
Author Gracieboo Posted May 14, 2017 Author Posted May 14, 2017 He could be a nice guy. He could be one of the 5% who keeps it in his pants. That's why he didn't approach you. He just looked. I'm sure it gets lonely and it's nice to look at pretty things and no crime in that, but doesn't mean he wants to take it further than that. Who knows Maybe, but we definitely exchanged few longing stares and, every time, I was serious and just looked away.
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