ED putting strains on the relationship...

[Panda1995]

For about 18 months now, I've had a kind of small case of erecticle dysfunction. Happens with other people and by myself.

 

In November I got together with this girl and we're really close and are thinking about moving in together.

 

The problem is, since being with her my ED has gotten worse, I can't always get and then can't get an erection. I find it very difficult to ejaculate sometimes as well and I have no idea why.

 

I try to focus things on her more so that she wouldn't notice or wouldn't mind so much but I can tell she's starting to get really annoyed and frustrated. She thinks it's because I don't find her attractive no matter how much I tell her otherwise.

 

I try really hard in bed to keep an erection to please her but it's obviously not working and maybe the stress it making it worse. She's getting more upset about it everytime we're together and I'm afraid she thinks it's her and that I don't love her or think she's attractive anymore.

 

I am going to see a specialist doctor about pains in my testicles, lumps and blood in semen / bowl movements, which may or may not be directly related.

 

Please, someone, help me. I don't know what to do anymore to keep her happy. I love her and I can't stand knowing my own f****d up penis isn't working and I can't satisfy her or make her happy.

 

What can I do to make her see it's not her fault? It's making me feel like less of a man and that I don't deserve her because I can't keep her happy. How can I fix this?!

[Shanex]

Do you masturbate a lot? I am not only asking because you are experiencing ED, only because hematospermia (blood in semen/sperm) can be one of the consequence of too much masturbation.

 

Check this out: Hematospermia Clinical Presentation: History, Physical, Causes

 

Now, of course go seek Profesional medical advices, it's not necessarily very serious but still worthy of being mentioned to an urologist.

[Panda1995]

Do you masturbate a lot? I am not only asking because you are experiencing ED, only because hematospermia (blood in semen/sperm) can be one of the consequence of too much masturbation.

 

Check this out: Hematospermia Clinical Presentation: History, Physical, Causes

 

Now, of course go seek Profesional advices, it's not necessarily very serious but still worthy of being mentioned to an urologist.

 

No, I don't masturbate all together that often. ED accords during masturbation as well so I can't really do it anyway...

[preraph]

For sure tell her you're seeing a doctor for related issues. I don't see how she could think it's her fault when there's medical issues involved. I'm thinking once your doctor diagnoses you and deals with the medical issues, that if it's still an issue, maybe at that time he will see how you do on an ED drug.

[harrybrown]

Get a prescription from the doc.

 

Talk to her, open up and tell her about your feelings and going to the doc.

 

 

Good luck to you.

Edited May 14, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Dis]

For about 18 months now, I've had a kind of small case of erecticle dysfunction. Happens with other people and by myself.

 

In November I got together with this girl and we're really close and are thinking about moving in together.

 

The problem is, since being with her my ED has gotten worse, I can't always get and then can't get an erection. I find it very difficult to ejaculate sometimes as well and I have no idea why.

 

I try to focus things on her more so that she wouldn't notice or wouldn't mind so much but I can tell she's starting to get really annoyed and frustrated. She thinks it's because I don't find her attractive no matter how much I tell her otherwise.

 

I try really hard in bed to keep an erection to please her but it's obviously not working and maybe the stress it making it worse. She's getting more upset about it everytime we're together and I'm afraid she thinks it's her and that I don't love her or think she's attractive anymore.

 

I am going to see a specialist doctor about pains in my testicles, lumps and blood in semen / bowl movements, which may or may not be directly related.

 

Please, someone, help me. I don't know what to do anymore to keep her happy. I love her and I can't stand knowing my own f****d up penis isn't working and I can't satisfy her or make her happy.

 

What can I do to make her see it's not her fault? It's making me feel like less of a man and that I don't deserve her because I can't keep her happy. How can I fix this?!

 

Hey Panda

 

Before you ask your doctor for a perscription for Viagra or whatever else...

 

You might have some serious health problems that could be far more pressing than ED

 

Pain and lumps in the testicles as well as blood in the stool could be signs and symptoms of greater problems so make sure your doctor runs all the required tests such as a metabolic panel (blood work) and a thorough physical exam. Theres a good chance you will need to undergo more extensive tests to address these issues

 

As for your problems with your gf, you cant control how she feels about your ED and what that means for your relationship with her. I think you're doing a great job trying to handle the situation and at the end of the day...thats all you can do. For now I think it would be smart to focus on your health and taking care of yourself...although I know thats easier said than done considering your so concerned about your relationship

 

When I see my patients I'm reminded of the most important aspect of our lives...and thats our health and well being. Take care of yourself. Everything and everyone else comes second

 

I wish you the very best

[CptInsano]

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You might have some serious health problems that could be far more pressing than ED

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Agreed. Please get the issue checked out not only respect to the ED. Lumps in your testicles are always a reason for concern, and blood in your semen is too.

[Titanll]

This is a no brainer. Go to a doctor asap. Period.

[ExpatInItaly]

Tell her that you are seeing a doctor.

 

That's all you can really do, and if she still feels off, I would let her go. You have more pressing health concerns than ED right now and this added stress won't help matters at all.