PVP1245 Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 Hi All, I'm just after some advice with my situation. A met a girl out about a month ago and her number was passed onto me. At the time, there was no mention of a partner or anything. As she lives in another city, a few weeks later (during a pre-planed trip) I sent her a message and we organised to meet up for dinner. Cutting a long story short, halfway through dinner she mentions she has a boyfriend who she met when she lived overseas. Even though she spoke a little about him, she didn't seem to mention any plans to go back over to see him. The following day, she asked me out for a drink. I just am confused as to why she would agree to go out with me, considering she did not know me from a bar of soap. Does anyone have any thoughts. p.s. her boyfriend appears to have a career which requires him to work oversea
Erik30 Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 I think she might be seeing it as just friends hanging out, because she talks to you about her boyfriend... if not, that would mean she's willing to cheat on him with you
d0nnivain Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 There is nothing confusing here. She's playing games or is a cheater. Your choice -- neither is good. Point blank tell her you are interested but won't be a cheating partner. If she ever dumps the BF tell her to look you up then walk away. 2
OatsAndHall Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 Well, she was open and honest about having a boyfriend so that's a plus. She could be looking for a friend or she could be playing games. You really never know... I would suggest that you avoid an intimate relationship with her if you continue to spend time with her as you don't want to get caught up in a mess. 1
CptInsano Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 Well, she was open and honest about having a boyfriend so that's a plus. She could be looking for a friend or she could be playing games. You really never know... I would suggest that you avoid an intimate relationship with her if you continue to spend time with her as you don't want to get caught up in a mess. Agreed, avoid an intimate relationship and simply have fun going out with her. Dates can a whole lot of fun if there is absolutely nothing at stake.
victoria88 Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 (edited) Cutting a long story short, halfway through dinner she mentions she has a boyfriend who she met when she lived overseas. Even though she spoke a little about him, she didn't seem to mention any plans to go back over to see him. The following day, she asked me out for a drink. Does anyone have any thoughts. My comments: Why do men confuse women? (I can ask too) The best moment for you to have a relationship with her is when she tells you she does not have a boyfriend. Someone else would advice you for the other cases (when she has a boyfriend). Edited May 13, 2017 by victoria88
smackie9 Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 (edited) There's nothing to be confused about. She calls him her BF but it's just a LDR, and most LDRs fall flat after awhile. I think she knows he isn't moving to be with her anytime soon, so she is getting ready to move on. She doesn't have a ring on her finger so she is fair game. If you want a challenge, then go for it, sweep her off her feet. You definitely have the advantage ....you are here and he is waaaaaaay over there. SHE asked you out....that's a pretty good indication she's into you. I say go see how this plays out....just remember to have open honest conversation about this guy soon if things really progress. You are the deciding factor my friend...it's how things progress with you will determine whether she dumps him or not. Edited May 13, 2017 by smackie9
Popsicle Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 (edited) I guess I am a dissenter here, and I would avoid her. She reminds me of married men who seem unhappily married, and are flirting with you. It's too risky and I'd just dodge that situation altogether. If she doesn't have the balls to end her situation that she is unhappy with, then she shouldn't be putting this risk factor and burden on you to end it for her. (which may or may not happen since the decision is completely on her and dependent on her whims). I'd tell her that you like her a lot, but you won't be seeing her any more, unless she gets rid of the boyfriend, and then she can contact you again. Then you move on. DON'T continue to be her friend and/or text in the meantime. Edited May 13, 2017 by Popsicle 2
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