littleblackheart Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 And the 2 negative personality traits that are totally out of bounds for you. For me Positives: straight to the point, open-minded. Negatives: ungenerous (with time, thoughts, affection, not just money), being vengeful/can't let things go.
Titanll Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 Positives: Sense of humor, affectionate Negatives: Drama queen, close opposite sex friends...not going to work at all. 2
rushed Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 Positives: Kind Reliable Negatives: Short-tempered Jealous 1
Brieanne Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 Positives: Sense of humor, affectionate Absolutely! I couldn't have a relationship with a guy who didn't like to cuddle, or give and receive back rubs. Those are like my favorite things to do with a guy!
amaysngrace Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 Not married and not incarcerated are must haves for me. 2
mercy Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 Positive - honesty integrity Neg - laziness humorless 1
Author littleblackheart Posted May 13, 2017 Author Posted May 13, 2017 Thanks for the replies so far! I should have specified in the OP - loyalty, integrity, respect (for positives) and abusive or violent (for negatives) are the usual expected minimum baseline for any working relationship so I was thinking more about things that are personal to you that you have refined with experience.
Mandy91 Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 I can't believe Honesty is not the number one quality for every single person. Granted I am in a somewhat different relationship so honesty becomes more important than normal but I would have thought it would be number one anyway. Anyway for me the top two positive qualities; Honesty Emotionally open Top two worst qualities: Dishonesty Lack of empathy 3
CptInsano Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 Positive: - Positive attitude, enjoys life - Smart Negative: - Passive-aggressive - Princess 1
Superchicken Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 (edited) Positives: Humour (Without it, depression wins) Tolerance (Used in every aspect of life, from love to hatred) Neg's: Anger (No place for it anywhere, and is a animal reaction) Frustration (Leads to problems in many aspects of life) Ted. Edited May 13, 2017 by Superchicken 2
spiderowl Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 Can't do without: Kindness - cannot tolerate anyone who has no empathy or who would easily harm or hurt others Intelligence - I need someone who is mentally flexible and on a similar wavelength to me, otherwise it is incredibly frustrating Can't tolerate: Cruelty or aggression Meanness 2
Miss Spider Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 Can't do without: Kind, considerate Can't do: arrogant, mean 2
oasis Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 (edited) Must be: Sincere Kind And caring Detest: Liars Lack of generosity And poor hygiene Edited May 14, 2017 by oasis 1
Gillys Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 Positive: -Growth Mindset -Sense of Humor Negative: -Poor Hygiene/ Self care -Judgmental without acknowledging own flaws (just comes off as nagging to me) 1
somuchfortheone Posted May 15, 2017 Posted May 15, 2017 And the 2 negative personality traits that are totally out of bounds for you. For me Positives: straight to the point, open-minded. Negatives: ungenerous (with time, thoughts, affection, not just money), being vengeful/can't let things go. Positives: honesty, loyalty Negatives: arrogance, irresponsible 1
Author littleblackheart Posted May 16, 2017 Author Posted May 16, 2017 I can't believe Honesty is not the number one quality for every single person. Granted I am in a somewhat different relationship so honesty becomes more important than normal but I would have thought it would be number one anyway. Anyway for me the top two positive qualities; Honesty Emotionally open Top two worst qualities: Dishonesty Lack of empathy Of course honesty, loyalty, respect, integrity, etc should all equally be number one on everyone's list, but I see them as the bare minimum without which a RL can't even happen, not something that is personal to you. For instance, if there was a choice to be had between two 'must' qualities, my personal choice would be someone who does what he says over someone who is funny, and I prefer someone who is open-minded to someone who is overly affectionate, if that makes sense.
devilish innocent Posted May 17, 2017 Posted May 17, 2017 Positives: common sense; trustworthiness Negatives: Inability to compromise or admit being wrong; cold-hearted 1
todreaminblue Posted May 17, 2017 Posted May 17, 2017 (edited) Can't do without: Kindness - cannot tolerate anyone who has no empathy or who would easily harm or hurt others Intelligence - I need someone who is mentally flexible and on a similar wavelength to me, otherwise it is incredibly frustrating Can't tolerate: Cruelty or aggression Meanness exact same ...i can eb friends with people like this and try to find and appreciate their good qualities try to brign out the best i can see in them..... to date them or be with them intimately would crush me and my heart....and has......been proven to do so......deb Edited May 17, 2017 by todreaminblue 1
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