Loulou94 Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly 5 years. I would say things were good for the first 3 years but recently I feel we have just hit a massive wall. I feel really confused about my feelings and I find myself wondering if I am just with him for the sake of being with him. I am a very anxious person and I over analyse everything and I wonder if I am just with him as I would struggle with the change as I have been with him since my anxiety began. Sometimes I feel like I really love him and other days I honestly can't bare to be with him. I'm so confused, is it just my mental health making me feel this way, I just don't know. Any people in the same boat or been through something similar please help, any advice is appreciated as I feel so stuck in a rut!
d0nnivain Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 Only you know your own mind. Do the old Ann Landers test. Ask yourself would you be better off with him or without him? Also make a pros & cons list about your relationship. Together those exercises should point you in the right direction.
SerenaAnna Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 It sounds like you are riding an emotional roller coaster. You need to figure out what made you hit that massive wall. What changed from 3 years to 5? What are the things that you and your boyfriend can work on to improve the relationship? I would start there and see how it goes. Good luck!
Simple Logic Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly 5 years. I would say things were good for the first 3 years but recently I feel we have just hit a massive wall. I feel really confused about my feelings and I find myself wondering if I am just with him for the sake of being with him. I am a very anxious person and I over analyse everything and I wonder if I am just with him as I would struggle with the change as I have been with him since my anxiety began. Sometimes I feel like I really love him and other days I honestly can't bare to be with him. I'm so confused, is it just my mental health making me feel this way, I just don't know. Any people in the same boat or been through something similar please help, any advice is appreciated as I feel so stuck in a rut! Here is a question you did not mention, does he make you feel loved? If not, the answer is rather easy.
Superchicken Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 If you don't know how you feel, then get out. If your buying a car, and your not sure its your best choice, would you still buy it, or walk away. When you decide you need that model, then go look for it again. Till then, WALK !. Ted.
Maldives Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 To add to ur confusiion I would advise to not do anything drastic lol. If I wss u go and see a councillor specialising in relationships just u. Be totally honest wth them even ur shortcomings so they can help u make a decision that's my advice
jjgitties Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 Hmm.. not sure what to tell you. The post is a little vague. So basically, you have been dating a guy whom you get along with and the first 3 years were great and the last 2 years were so so and you feel you have hit a wall. Maybe that means you need to take it to the next level of commitment? Maybe its time to decide who long do you two just want to be dating or whether its time to decide if you should consider getting married. I mean, you don't sound like you are in a toxic relationship. You don't mention cheating or violence or that you think you are in love with someone else. It just sounds like you are very comfortable and don't know what to do next. I guess you have to decide what you want to do and what you want from this person you are dating.
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