Am I being wise in breaking up with this girl ? Need to be strong to take action!

[tito1501]

Me and this girl are early twenties and are living together in another country.

 

We both have a job but she lives 1 hour from work, where I take only 5 minutes to commute. When we moved to this city, she accepted it as she had an urgent need to move 'closer' to her work compared to where we were before.

She is extremely unmotivated for living far away from where she works. She is so obsessed to move out to a city closer to the office, that she is taking it to another level. I told her that I am OK to move as long as it is in the middle for both of us and to a place that we both like.

 

I sincerely looked for many options already and even talked to mortgage advisers BIG TIME in order to find the best solution. I always pick her up with my bike at the train station, bring her flowers and have dinner ready at home. I do all this things to make her a bit happier.

 

We visited only one property and I did not like, (she loved). She then did not accept that I did not like it. She started blaming me for her life problems and that I am keeping her in the city where we leave, because for me it is convenient.

 

Every time we face a difficult situation, she is extremely selfish like that. She said many times already that I never do **** to help her, that I am useless. That she is only in this city because of me etc.

 

Now she threatened me by saying that if we do not go to that house that I did not like, she will leave me. She even put her stuff and a bed in another room of our apartment. She is playing with my feelings big time. Because I know that when I kick her out, she will be doing the biggest drama ever. I really cannot take it anymore. Because for one year, she has always been the same, she did not change for me.

 

I was extremely jealous and macho, and now I am way more mature as I wanted to keep a better relationship.

 

However, every time I think about breaking up, I remember the good moments that we had and I feel sorry for breaking up. I will need to be extremely strong as she would probably stay at least a few weeks at home until she finds something.

 

Any advice as to whether breaking up is a wise decision ? And, if so, what would be the wisest way to do it, as I have to live with her a few more weeks.

[kgcolonel]

Ask her when she plans to move so you can help her pack and transport her goods.

 

This sounds much like a maturity issue than anything else...how old are you two?

[tito1501]

Ask her when she plans to move so you can help her pack and transport her goods.

 

This sounds much like a maturity issue than anything else...how old are you two?

 

24 (myself) and 25

[d0nnivain]

Of course breaking up is a wise decision. Why would you stay with someone who is so selfish, who plays games & who can't compromise?

[Superchicken]

All posters called the right decision.

Leave her.

 

 

Come on, you also knew that.

I suppose you just wanted confirmation your decision was correct.

It is, I mean if anything else in your life gave you such trouble, would you continue, or move on and try a different thing.

 

 

So, practise what your going to say, and calmly and firmly, tell her what you really think of her, her mid set, and how each of you having different values in what's more important in your lives.

 

 

Then, close the front door on her ass as she steps out of your house !.

 

 

Ted.