Author selinaluv Posted May 14, 2017 Author Posted May 14, 2017 I think you're worrying more because you really felt a connection. I would be clawing walls wondering why no contact. I'm lucky in that the guy I'm seeing is in contact daily. I am not one to sit back and wait. I would have contacted him the next day, just to say hi, how was your day? I really suck at this "don't text and wait X amount of time game." I like him, and I think he should know. I don't flog him with texts. Mine is busy with kids and job as well, and I'm feeling a little pushed aside and insecure, but I really like this guy. We get along so well, and he's really a keeper, so I'm really in limbo right now, but patience is key. This man is doing what a good man does by being involved with his children and activities. You would think less of him if he blew off his daughter's tournament and opportunity to spend time with her and responsibility as a parent. When you've been dating longer, maybe he would have planned his trip a little differently, or you would have gone with...because you hit that place. That's the target. For now, the kids aren't involved. No introductions until things get serious. All seems well, but you are both very busy and kids/job trump everything. Hang in there and allow things to grow. No one knows how this will progress, but you have to try, and you'll feel better having done so. I did reach out and now the ball is officially in his court. I have a feeling he will pop back up again. And you are right. I initially did question him skipping the tournament in the first place and he did do the right thing. It is clear he is a good dad and said women have an issue with him putting his daughter first. I clearly respect that.
Author selinaluv Posted May 14, 2017 Author Posted May 14, 2017 Sounds like there really wasn't enough spark felt on the date on either side. I definitely felt it and it really seemed he felt something too. I guess time will tell.
Hailiee7 Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 I totally understand what you are saying, but in this situation, it is best for you to wait for him to call and not push it. After all, as a single dad his ability to find time for himself is probably very difficult to find. Truly, the best thing to do would be to wait for him to call and not be too eager. Basically, if it is meant to be either he will call you or you two will "bump" into each other and reconnect then.
stillafool Posted May 14, 2017 Posted May 14, 2017 (edited) So that's it... that's where it stands and I will move on and talk to others. I am just so disheartened with this a bit because it honestly seemed like he was interested. It is so hard to read these things and I start questioning what I may or may not have done. At least you have others you are dating so this isn't too much sweat off your back. The thing is when someone is really interested you do not have to wonder as they will make it obvious by contacting you. Edited May 14, 2017 by stillafool
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