Author my_manda Posted August 8, 2005 Author Posted August 8, 2005 We were supposed to meet, as you all know, on Thursday evening. He called me about hour before he was supposed to be there and said he could not get away from the office (their fiscal year end), and that he was leaving to go out of town the next day for the weekend (I knew this already as well). We agreed to meet Sunday once he returned. He called me yesterday, and his flight was delayed and he was sitting in the aiport. He called me last night when he got home at 10:00, and I told him that I would need to re-schedule myself because it was too late as I had to be at a sales meeting early this morning and had already started prepping for my work week to begin. He asked if I was frustrated and I told him "no", but that I also felt like the whole thing was a little strange since we normally see one another/talk (if one of us is busy/traveling with work) on a regular basis and since "the incident" things were really inconsistent despite what he had said about giving things a try. It is a feeling like things are weird more than anything with me, and I told him this. He then dropped a bombshell and said that the evening he could not make it to dinner because of being tied up at the office, he was in a meeting where he was promoted and asked to move to Phoenix. He said he did not feel like he could pick me up and be normal with this new information on his mind on our scheduled dinner evening so he decided to keep working at the office and get some things done. As I mentioned in my initial posts, career is very important to this man, and he has been given an opportunity that would nearly double his salary as well as guarantee him a secure future with his company. I am sad about his moving, but I told him I was happy for him and understood. We actually had a good conversation, and he said that he is bothered about the whole thing because he feels like he will move to Phoenix wondering what might have been with us had he stayed here. I think we will remain friends, and he will be back and forth a lot, and he mentioned trying to date LD, but I just don't feel like that would work given him being so far away, in a completely new job, etc. For now, I told him, we need to stick to what we are best at which is being good friends. I guess that while I am bothered, I know there is someone else out there for me, hopefully, and someone special in Phoenix for my friend as well.
alphamale Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 Originally posted by my_manda For now, I told him, we need to stick to what we are best at which is being good friends. It goes against the laws of nature for men and women to be "friends". They can be lovers but not friends in the true sense of the word.
Author my_manda Posted August 8, 2005 Author Posted August 8, 2005 My best friend always says that too. She thinks that all men who have friends that are women fall into one of three categories.......1. they have already hooked up and it is a been there/done that situation for both of them, 2. there is sexual tension and eventually they will hook up, 3. they are gay and really don't want to hook-up with a woman. I tend to agree. I have another good guy friend who is my good guy friend as a result of us initially being boyfriend/girlfriend first several years ago, it not working out, and us remaining friends. The thing is, neither one of us wants to hook up with the other because we have been there/done that and there is no sexual chemistry.
JanieQP Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale It goes against the laws of nature for men and women to be "friends". They can be lovers but not friends in the true sense of the word. How about the friends-with-benefits category?
Author my_manda Posted August 9, 2005 Author Posted August 9, 2005 That is not truly a friendship as it is a friendship with a hint of self gratification. I also think too, that can be an awkward friendship. Think about it " John meet Tony. Tony this is my new man John I have been telling you about." "John, this is Tony my friend who I sleep with". Yikes.
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