Quokka Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 So yeah, as the title states I am talking to an older woman. I am 20 and she is 35. She's a tattoo artist with two kids ages 3 and 9 and her semester is over so she has more free time now. We've been talking for about a week. I went up to the tattoo shop to get a tattoo and we ended up talking about our lives and such and exchanging numbers. She is very attractive to me and is attracted to me also. Our text conversations are very lengthy paragraphs exchanged between the both of us. I have asked to take her out multiple times. The first time was late at night on a Saturday and she wanted to go to the strip joint but I was unable to get in because I was 21 so we settled to make a date some other time. The second time I offered to take her to dinner she told me she had some free time in the afternoon but not for a full dinner. I ended up sleeping late because I work graveyard shifts (7p-7a) 4 nights a week so that didn't work out. Our schedules are always colliding. The reason for the post is because I can feel things starting to go stale due to our schedules being so different and not seeing each other isn't helping matters. I need advice on how to woo this woman because I really am interested and do like her a lot. I've always dated older women but not over the age of 30 so I know she already knows what she is looking for and obviously I caught her attention. How do I ensure a date? Continue to maintain her attention? An older woman isn't interested in immaturity and I'm doing well for myself. Full time job, my own apartment, new car etc. any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, -Quokka :-)
Gaeta Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 The age does not really matter if your schedules keep on colliding than it just won't work. You can't build a relationship over text without spending quality time together. I think you are a bit infatuated with her because she's a tattoo artist. You see a mature woman, I don't. A mother of 2 young kids heading to strip bars late on Saturday night isn't my definition of a mature woman. 6
NTV Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 You see a hot woman with potential for great sex. I get it. What do you think she sees in you? Because that's the cards you play. Got a six pack? Then send her a pic of it and say 'I was thinking of a tattoo here and here of a blah blah blah. ' then the six pack is the sales pitch. Could be she doesn't want a real dinner and movie date but just wants you to come by and get some action. Women often want sex just as much as men. 1
Miss Spider Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 (edited) Sending a shirtless pic to a woman is a gamble that I wouldn't take unless you know she's just looking for casual(and honestly, even if she is, there are smoother ways than abs and **** pics to go about this). Especially with the age discrepancy. Try to nail down a date as soon as you can and make it a good one. It's good that the conversations seem to be going well. Edited May 12, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
smackie9 Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 She knows where her priorities lie.....I have two words: Boy Toy. 5
mikeylo Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 She is not in it for a serious relationship with you.She just wants to have fun with a younger guy.If that is what you also want, work around her otherwise bail. 1
VeveCakes Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 Ahh the old first date at a strip club. I'm 33 and have dated younger, 23 at the youngest. 35 with kids is a bit of a reach to a 20 yr old. Not sure this is built to last. 2
Miss Spider Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 (edited) Can't say she's definitely looking for something casual. Most women over 35 are constantly complaining men not enough men their age date them and go after younger women or have too much baggage/bitterness(similar to what the men say) They get just as much attention from younger men if not way more. So a lot of them date younger guys because 1. They're 'hot' and 2. They treat them better than men their age because they don't see age as a 'bad' thing, find their maturity sexier than the level of girls their age (in general),and don't have as much "baggage" (Not my words, just common things I've heard from older women) Especially if they are accomplished women on heir own. Unfortunately, a lot of the younger men aren't thinking long-term, but a few are. Age differences really depends on compatiblility, maturity, and aligned goals and values and open mind. Speaking as someone with happily married parents with a huge age gap, much younger father, and has read a lot about it Edited May 12, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
Titanll Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 You were going on a date to a strip club? I'm crawling back under my rock where it's safe...let me know when a meteor hits that earth and destroys all life and I can come back out... 2
d0nnivain Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 the reasons for the 2 aborted dates make it seem unlikely to me that this has a future. First date it smacked her right in the face that you are not even old enough to go to a bar. Second date, you overslept & either blew her off or cancelled last minute. Either paints a bad picture. 2
devilish innocent Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 So a 35-year-old woman invites a 20-year-old guy out to a strip club for their first date? As a woman close to her age, I really don't think she's looking for a father figure for her kids. It's really just a question of how much of your sleep and free time you want to sacrifice for sex. 3
NTV Posted May 13, 2017 Posted May 13, 2017 So a 35-year-old woman invites a 20-year-old guy out to a strip club for their first date? As a woman close to her age, I really don't think she's looking for a father figure for her kids. It's really just a question of how much of your sleep and free time you want to sacrifice for sex. Exactly. Ask her if you can what time of night to come over and you're in.
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