A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 1, 2005 Posted August 1, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale this is an issue for your B/F to hammer out and resolve, not you. If you get in the middle you will create resentment.... Alpha's right on this one.. But you have to at least bring it to your BFs attention and tell him your feelings.. But don't make any decisions for him.
crazy_grl Posted August 1, 2005 Posted August 1, 2005 I watched a movie last week where one of the characters was in love with his friend's gf and she thought he hated her, but he was just trying to be a good friend. So maybe the friend is not comfortable being around you 'cause he's got the hots for ya. Or maybe he's just an overgrown kindergartener... Either way, you should talk to your bf about it and how it's making you feel and ask him to establish boundaries of what's acceptable behavior and what's not with his friend.
Author Merin Posted August 2, 2005 Author Posted August 2, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale this is an issue for your B/F to hammer out and resolve, not you. If you get in the middle you will create resentment.... I'm not getting in the middle of things regarding how I feel about his buddy in general.. I'm not trying to resolve the issue as to why his Buddy isn't doing more in his own relationship... what I'm doing is looking out for MINE. I haven't said anything negative to my BF regarding this. Originally posted by A Fly onThe Wall Alpha's right on this one.. But you have to at least bring it to your BFs attention and tell him your feelings.. But don't make any decisions for him. I would never think about making the decision for him, my take is if after he knows how I feel he still wants his boy to move in with him then that will be his decision and choice and what I do from there will be my decision and choice as well.. I love my BF and I know he wants to help out his friends when he can... I see nothing wrong with that, as long as he isn't forgetting about his own relationship with me. Originally posted by crazy_grl I watched a movie last week where one of the characters was in love with his friend's gf and she thought he hated her, but he was just trying to be a good friend. So maybe the friend is not comfortable being around you 'cause he's got the hots for ya. Or maybe he's just an overgrown kindergartener... Either way, you should talk to your bf about it and how it's making you feel and ask him to establish boundaries of what's acceptable behavior and what's not with his friend. Thanks Girl... and yes I will talk to him about this if or when the time comes that we need too... this is hard for me because generally I'm a very laid back person and good to go with whatever.. but this with his buddy is making me not feel well just that bad feeling I guess so I don't want to ignore it either.... Thanks you guys
Naive Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 Originally posted by ~Naive~ Tell him tha you think he should that his friend is a big boy and that he should let im solve his problems on his own. He can be there emotionally for his friend but he has to think about his own relationship before trying to help someone else's! How in the world did I make so many typos???
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