CptCodi Posted May 11, 2017 Posted May 11, 2017 I'd like to hear stories or experiences where your breakup ended up positive in the end, whether that's involves you getting back together with your ex and getting to a better place, or the separation was a good thing and you both benefited from that. Really, any story with a positive outcome.
Author CptCodi Posted May 11, 2017 Author Posted May 11, 2017 I'll start. I believe I was 20/21 at the time. I knew this girl named Emily, and she was extremely beautiful and always felt unobtainable. Long story short, her and I started to hit things off and before you know it, we're hooking up, and at the time I was pretty excited and I won't lie, I was infatuated with her. Fast foreword two months and I had cut things off with her, but I cannot remember why. Well, within another two weeks we were hooking up again, nothing official. Fast foreword another week, we're at a party with friends and we're both staying at this friends house. Long story short, she ended up ****ing my best friend while I slept in the next room waiting for her to get into bed with me. I didn't find out for a few more days, and the only reason I found out is because I saw a text from my friend at the time that said something along the lines of, "come cuddle" or something that made me go, "hmmm, what?" Read the texts and I figured out they hooked up and I was absolutely ****ing crushed. Now here's where I made stupid, terrible decisions. I forgave my friend because I knew this bitch wouldn't matter in the life long friendship him and I will have. Annnd I forgave her and gave her another shot; I don't know why I did this, I think it's because I want to be a good person and give people the benefit of the doubt and I also think it's really difficult to just tell your brain and heart to shut off the feelings you have for someone. We did end up dating but only for a few months. We broke up because I thought I was moving to San Diego, tried, couldn't handle it there and moved back home. Now, when I got back home, I wanted to be with her again because I wanted that familiarity I had before I left. Well, she had moved on already and had slept with multiple people and had a new boyfriend already. At the time, I was so heart broken to be rejected by the girl I gave another chance, and it was like she just didn't give a **** at all, which she didn't. It wasn't until a few months later after I had healed from the incident that I realized who she really was, and she's a serial dater. She goes from guy to guy with no lag in between. At the time I didn't realize it, probably because I didn't want. Even to this day, if I see her Facebook she has a new boyfriend every 4-8 months. Even though at the time I felt sad and heart broken, I ended up dodging a huge bullet of crazy-ness and I'm super happy I never got back together with her. I also believe the helping factor that helped me get over it was we hooked up again about 6-ish months later and as soon I fished I had zero attraction and zero interest in her. tl;dr Dated a crazy, serial dater for a few months and didn't realize it until after we broke up how much up a huge bullet I dodged.
d0nnivain Posted May 11, 2017 Posted May 11, 2017 Let's see . . . Got blindsided by a break up. I thought he was coming over to propose when he dumped me. Years later I saw him right before his first child was born & he said something horrible. He & his wife had actually scheduled her c-section because he didn't want to be inconvenienced by the birth. Boy did I dodge a bullet. Years later that EX & I were involved in a profitable short term business arrangement. After 10 years, I broke up with a man I loved who was not healthy for me. I learned to be an adult, to be independent, to find my own voice and to stop being an insecure mess. Eventually the decisions I made during that break up lead me to my beloved husband. 3
SpecialJ Posted May 11, 2017 Posted May 11, 2017 When I really think about it, there isn't one relationship breakup I regret as, he was the one who got away. I've been disraught about some for a very long time, and I still miss my most recent ex, but with enough time and knowing where some of these guys ended up in life, it's clear it's ranged from, they could have tried harder to make it work but ultimately we weren't the perfect match and make better friends now, to, that person was a hot mess and still is X months/years later and I dodged a bullet. I should try to keep that in mind when I'm sad about this stuff... if in the long term view I don't regret being dumped by people I've really loved because it was for the best, then I can probably get through other breakups that come my way. Thanks, OP! 1
ilovemefirst Posted May 11, 2017 Posted May 11, 2017 I was with a guy for 4 years. He did not want to be in a relationship, he just wanted fun. I met someone else, he got jealous. I told him that i deserved better and i was done with him.I had to walk away and let go. That was the only way i would regain whatever dignity i had left. He showed up at my house after i blocked him and he asked me to be his gf. We have been happy together ever since and we are getting married next year. 1
sweetgirl75 Posted May 11, 2017 Posted May 11, 2017 I'd like to hear stories or experiences where your breakup ended up positive in the end, whether that's involves you getting back together with your ex and getting to a better place, or the separation was a good thing and you both benefited from that. Really, any story with a positive outcome. Well my situation was a FWB relationship that lasted way too long. What was positive about my experience is that I learned to not settle for any guy that gives me attention or to fall for any player ways they may have. I am in a much better place. I have better self esteem and one thing I have learned is to make sure to check DPS website for sex offenders in your area. That was an eye opening experience for me. I hid this relationship from my family and I will never do a FWB relationship again. If you are ashamed to be seen with me in public then don't waste my time. Bad thing to go through but I learned so much in a positive way. 1
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