When a woman approaches you randomly?

[fabric]

Is it generally a good idea to assume she is interested in setting something up with you? Asking about strangers here.

 

This has happened to me at the gym a couple times before, but I thought they were just being friendly or interested in my training.

Seeing as i always heard that women never want to be approached or approach for dating at the gym, I just glossed over the encounter after. She asked me a lot of questions about if i'm competing in strength sports and stuff, but i was more interested to know about her training history, as i saw her doing clean and jerks which is unusual to see at my gym.

 

Also, how often do you guys get random women outside of alcohol fueled venues approach you? I think it happened for the first time to me last night. A girl at the checkout of a takeaway place complimented my shirt, then my arm veins and asked to feel my bicep. I was quite take aback by the whole thing, as it is so rare to happen. I feel like i would be stupid to ask if she was interested, right?

Edited May 11, 2017 by fabric

[d0nnivain]

Not every woman who talks to you wants you but the odds are on your side that if she's initiating contact she's open to more.

 

 

I'm just the friendly type & I'll talk to anybody but I'm happily married.

 

 

All you can do is be open to the possibility & keep her talking. See where it goes.

[CptInsano]

For small talk I get approached daily or every other day. I normally do the same, it's not unusual at all, especially in a safe environment like work or the gym.

 

I wouldn't read too much into it. This doesn't mean that it couldn't grow into more over time. Just keep up the conversation and see where it takes you.

[smackie9]

When women approach, they usually will at least "hint" that they want to go out with you, usually by asking if you are single or not. That will be your cue.

 

I'm like d0nnvivan, I strike up a conversation with strangers all the time and I'm married. There have been a few times they get the wrong idea and assume. I don't get mad but give them praise for having the confidence to ask me out and to never let rejection deter them from doing it with others.

[preraph]

there are some people who are just naturally open and friendly and aren't hitting on you, but the thing is, like this one was actually touchy, so she might have been flirting. Anyway, if someone talks to you real friendly, then that opens the door for you to ask them questions, find out if they're single, and if the runway is clear, asking them out. Even if they didn't mean to flirt and are just friendly, well, their nature will make it not too awkward if they say, "Oh, sorry, I can't" or whatever.

[Titanll]

It happens to me a bit. Forget bars or clubs, me walking into one of those situations is like chumming for sharks, good lord!

 

Just day to day run ins, I have been approached in the gym, coffee shop, grocery store, etc. A couple of times a week sounds about right.

 

I mean, it's probably safe to assume that you are being hit on but you don't have to acknowledge that fact. If you are interested in her, go for it. If she's not obviously married, why not?

 

I had great relationship with a girl that commented on my suit in line at a coffee shop. A 10 minute conversation that she started turned into 3 months of dating.

 

And for the record, I am in a relationship now and I think that I give off a "taken" vibe. I get the looks but the approaches have slowed. I think that you have some control over who approaches you.

[OnlyHonesty]

Ive been approached quite a few times, but since I'm not looking to get into anything, I don't encourage them.

[rushed]

I approach and talk to the guys at my gym all the time (usually before and/or after class). I don't do it because I'm interested in any of them. I just like talking and making new friends. I make sure to never flirt because I don't want to give them the wrong idea. However, I'm learning that guys don't necessarily know the difference between friendly banter and flirting.

 

An ex-boyfriend of mine came home from Trader Joe's one day all giddy. He said a cute cashier was flirting with him. I suppressed my laughter and let him know that I was pretty sure Trader Joe's trains their employees to be super friendly with their customers. He looked super disappointed the next time we were at Trader Joe's as a cashier launched into a conversation with the same enthusiasm as his prior cashier.

 

Now the girl who touched your bicep - I would definitely call that flirting. Touching is pretty intimate. The girl at your gym is a maybe. That one can go either way.

[hercules22]

its a good sign but i wouldnt assume anything some girls at my gym are chatterboxes they talk to so many different guys lol