Author 2005tahoe Posted May 16, 2017 Author Posted May 16, 2017 If you insist on reaching out send a text like this: Hi. Hope your grandmother is doing better & that you had a happy Mother's Day. I'm around if you'd like to do something. Let me know. Normally I'm a big advocate of being specific but here, it's clear she's in the driver's seat so see what she says. Great advice, I did just that. We have talked everyday since we met, so this is kinda strange that shes not texting.
Imajerk17 Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 (edited) I don't know. This is sort of an aside here, but I do think on this forum we do really like our dating rules, and anyone who breaks from them is just wrong. Including this one: 'A woman who lets someone she just met into her home w her small child there is crazy and is NOT to be taken seriously'. Yeah, if she (OP's date) were on here asking for advice, then I would also be saying that she should not be inviting new guys over. BUT, even going by that she DID invite OP over for the 2nd date, I am NOT ready to say this woman is crazy or an unfit mother. Maybe OP gave her his last name and she has her best friend on speed dial. Maybe she is very inexperienced w dating and she reads OP as a decent guy. Maybe if nothing else she figures that her ex was awful around their child so how could OP be any worse. Anyways, women have needs too, and it can be really hard to get a babysitter sometimes. ETA: I read the 2nd page of the thread. I am sorry to hear that things burned out, this is quite a common outcome with OLD, especially if one of you is going through a divorce. Edited May 16, 2017 by Imajerk17
BaileyB Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 I'm really sorry to hear that it didn't work out the way that you would have hoped. Better luck with the next woman you meet.
Author 2005tahoe Posted May 16, 2017 Author Posted May 16, 2017 I don't know. This is sort of an aside here, but I do think on this forum we do really like our dating rules, and anyone who breaks from them is just wrong. Including this one: 'A woman who lets someone she just met into her home w her small child there is crazy and is NOT to be taken seriously'. Yeah, if she (OP's date) were on here asking for advice, then I would also be saying that she should not be inviting new guys over. BUT, even going by that she DID invite OP over for the 2nd date, I am NOT ready to say this woman is crazy or an unfit mother. Maybe OP gave her his last name and she has her best friend on speed dial. Maybe she is very inexperienced w dating and she reads OP as a decent guy. Maybe if nothing else she figures that her ex was awful around their child so how could OP be any worse. Anyways, women have needs too, and it can be really hard to get a babysitter sometimes. ETA: I read the 2nd page of the thread. I am sorry to hear that things burned out, this is quite a common outcome with OLD, especially if one of you is going through a divorce. I am hoping that her grandma is ok but that may be the reason she isn't responding. She may be deathly sick and she lives 1000 miles away. I pray that's not the reason. I am trying not to freakout and text her or call her and give her a hard time about her responding. But I just texted her that I hope her grandmother is ok and that I will be around if she wants to get back together. to reach out when shes ready.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 16, 2017 Posted May 16, 2017 It wasn't too long ago that picking up your date from her home was regarded as kind of romantic, gentlemanly. Now...not so much. When I dated my recent ex, I used to pick her up from her place. She was not uncomfortable with that. People are just not to be trusted so quickly now days....sigh. 1
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