problem after broke up

[madag7_m]

i broke up with my boyfriend after 3.5 year old relationship, we are too much different to be together anymore, when we met we were 20, but after 3.5 years we bearly can talk to each other. but he's too emotional and thinks love can fight everything and i don't believe it. he had the image of me and relationship that isn't even true.

we had a lot of problem he couldn't accept, we couldn't even talk about them. we fell apart like a year ago, i decide to finally break up with him 3 days ago but he didn't accept and took it very hard and he kept saying my reasons are not reasonable and i'm selfish and tired of him and insulted me.

he keeps texting me, i said to him it's not a good time for us to talk again but he said he's in love me and wanna stay in love me forever and i'm the one for him even though i don't want him.

i think he stuck in the past and talk to somebody that doesn't exist anymore.

i don't what to do with he can't accept our broke up and text me.

i don't answer him but he said i broke him and he just wants to know how i feel and i'm good or not, i said it's not a good idea to talk and why you don't understand it? he started to get angry and saying stuff about the pas and i don't have right to break him like this and thread he kill himself tonight and it's the last night.

i don't know what to do anymore

[d0nnivain]

On some levels its cruel to be kind but I'm going to advocate that you send him one final message simply because you describe him as a delicate, romantic soul.

 

 

The message should be something like this:

 

 

Breaking up is hard. I get that & I wish you weren't in pain but the fact remains I had to end our relationship. You can disagree with my reasons all you want. We're sill broken up. You need to move on & heal. You can't do that if you continue to contact me.

So

for your sake & mine, as soon as I hit send, I'

m

blocking you. Be well. Have a great life; it just has to be without me.

 

Then block him from everything -- your phone, social media, everything. If he shows up, tell him the same thing in person but add that if he comes back you are going to press charges for harassment & stalking.

[madag7_m]

On some levels its cruel to be kind but I'm going to advocate that you send him one final message simply because you describe him as a delicate, romantic soul.

 

 

The message should be something like this:

 

 

Breaking up is hard. I get that & I wish you weren't in pain but the fact remains I had to end our relationship. You can disagree with my reasons all you want. We're sill broken up. You need to move on & heal. You can't do that if you continue to contact me.

So

for your sake & mine, as soon as I hit send, I'

m

blocking you. Be well. Have a great life; it just has to be without me.

Then block him from everything -- your phone, social media, everything. If he shows up, tell him the same thing in person but add that if he comes back you are going to press charges for harassment & stalking.

 

my important problem is i live somewhere i can't contact police in case of harassment and he can make me a lot of problem.

[preraph]

I'm sorry you're going through this, and him too.

 

First of all, the way to stop him making threats about suicide is to call the police to go do a welfare check on him each and every time he pulls it. Seriously. He is doing that to try to force you to see him. IF he's serious, then you'd obviously want to call the police anyway and let them make a call on if he needs to be examined.

 

You're going to have to block him number and all social media and tell him you're going no contact, to minimize having to deal with this.

 

If there is no law against stalking and harassment where you are, then can you have either your dad or his make him stop? Before domestic violence and stalking laws in the US, we had the men in our family talk to guys and threaten to beat them up if the didn't back off.

Edited May 10, 2017 by preraph

[Emotion]

i broke up with my boyfriend after 3.5 year old relationship, we are too much different to be together anymore, when we met we were 20, but after 3.5 years we bearly can talk to each other. but he's too emotional and thinks love can fight everything and i don't believe it. he had the image of me and relationship that isn't even true.

we had a lot of problem he couldn't accept, we couldn't even talk about them. we fell apart like a year ago, i decide to finally break up with him 3 days ago but he didn't accept and took it very hard and he kept saying my reasons are not reasonable and i'm selfish and tired of him and insulted me.

he keeps texting me, i said to him it's not a good time for us to talk again but he said he's in love me and wanna stay in love me forever and i'm the one for him even though i don't want him.

i think he stuck in the past and talk to somebody that doesn't exist anymore.

i don't what to do with he can't accept our broke up and text me.

i don't answer him but he said i broke him and he just wants to know how i feel and i'm good or not, i said it's not a good idea to talk and why you don't understand it? he started to get angry and saying stuff about the pas and i don't have right to break him like this and thread he kill himself tonight and it's the last night.

i don't know what to do anymore

Hi,

 

This post saddens me deeply as it hit close to home for me and my story. although I strongly disagree that if both parties communicate and both really want the relationship nothing can't be solved.

 

Anyway, I agree with the above post from the community. Block all communication methods and inform his friends and family if he's feeling suicidal. You cannot make someone love another person and threatening someone is definitely not the way to do it.