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[fred123]

I think the OP is still confuses two aspects:

 

a) Whether this behavior is appropriate in the workplace. No, it's not, but inappropriate behavior occurs all the time, and it doesn't have any consequences, as long as nobody is offended. This is your girlfriend's issue alone.

 

b) The second question is whether it is okay in a relationship to have another man touch your girlfriend's butt. That is between the girlfriend and the OP, but unless the OP is willing to confront his girlfriend about this, all his talk is entirely pointless.

 

Well previous posts just said there is no point in brining it up. In not happy if a guy slaps my girlfri3nds butt but what can i do.

[CptInsano]

Well previous posts just said there is no point in brining it up. In not happy if a guy slaps my girlfri3nds butt but what can i do.

 

What you can do depends on your position in the relationship. She may see that it hurts you, and avoid these situations. But if she is truly of the opinion that it is none of your business, then it also reflects on the relationship IMHO.

[fred123]

What you can do depends on your position in the relationship. She may see that it hurts you, and avoid these situations. But if she is truly of the opinion that it is none of your business, then it also reflects on the relationship IMHO.

 

Care to elaborate th3 last sentence? Tha k you

[CptInsano]

Care to elaborate th3 last sentence? Tha k you

 

I personally wouldnt care, but that is just me. If it is something that truly pains you, your girlfriend should at least consider it. If she does not and you simply bear it, it means that it is unlikely to be a relationship built on mutual respect, and/or that your values are not compatible.

[preraph]

If you tell her it bothers you and she reprimands her boss the next time he does something cheeky, it may ruin her relationship with her boss and therefore her gainful employment, and then she would be mad at you forever.

[d0nnivain]

And if she didnt say anything if that situation happened what would you do donnivain?

 

 

I would talk to her about it privately. I would ask why she lets a man who is not her BF touch her like that. I would ask how she thinks it made you feel to have to see that.

 

 

If I didn't like her answers, I'd get a new GF.

[preraph]

One other thing to consider is that if you decide this is the rules you want to go by, that goes both ways and she will have the high road if she sees you texting with a woman or flirting with a waitress or ogling a cheerleader or having a platonic woman friend.