an0nym0us123 Posted May 10, 2017 Posted May 10, 2017 Broke up with a woman ive being seeing for a while. She met someone else. Ive started seeing someone to. She was desperate to remain friends. I told her no cos i love her. Said my final goodbye at the weekend. Have a message today asking to remain friends. Why?
sweetgirl75 Posted May 10, 2017 Posted May 10, 2017 Guys and girls may want to remain friends so that they have a familiar person to go back to. I have unfortunately been a fallback girl. I was dumb to let myself be treated that way. I personally have no friendship with an ex because I need closure and I would miss the romance of a relationship. And if they really piss you off you really don't want them around even as a friend.
Redhead14 Posted May 10, 2017 Posted May 10, 2017 In case things don't work out with the new person, they can come running back to you and/or use you as their emotional tampon when the new person treats them badly or dumps them. Basically, they want to ride a new bike and use you like training wheels until they get balanced with their new bike . . .
Chi townD Posted May 10, 2017 Posted May 10, 2017 Broke up with a woman ive being seeing for a while. She met someone else. Ive started seeing someone to. She was desperate to remain friends. I told her no cos i love her. Said my final goodbye at the weekend. Have a message today asking to remain friends. Why? You were seeing her and she met someone else. My question is did she meet someone else and that's what caused the break up? Need a little more clarification. The full story. If you were seeing her and she met someone else and that's what caused the break up, then she was cheating on you and now the guilt is settling in. MOST women don't like know that there might be someone on this planet that hates them or doesn't think that they are a nice person. SO, they want to try and get you in the friendzone to ease their guilt. If you were seeing her, then you broke up and THEN she started seeing someone else. Then, she might like her new boyfriend, but he might not carry on the same conversations that you two shared. He may not make her laugh like you used to do. So, she misses those aspects about you. Therefore, she gets you in the friendzone. She gets her social and emotional needs met by you and her physical needs met by her boyfriend. Then, she'll have the best of both worlds. Of course, this is just speculation. Hard to really tell you what's happening without some more context. 1
Author an0nym0us123 Posted May 10, 2017 Author Posted May 10, 2017 (edited) You were seeing her and she met someone else. My question is did she meet someone else and that's what caused the break up? Need a little more clarification. The full story. If you were seeing her and she met someone else and that's what caused the break up, then she was cheating on you and now the guilt is settling in. MOST women don't like know that there might be someone on this planet that hates them or doesn't think that they are a nice person. SO, they want to try and get you in the friendzone to ease their guilt. If you were seeing her, then you broke up and THEN she started seeing someone else. Then, she might like her new boyfriend, but he might not carry on the same conversations that you two shared. He may not make her laugh like you used to do. So, she misses those aspects about you. Therefore, she gets you in the friendzone. She gets her social and emotional needs met by you and her physical needs met by her boyfriend. Then, she'll have the best of both worlds. Of course, this is just speculation. Hard to really tell you what's happening without some more context. We werent living together. We are a good bit apart. I haddnt been to see her for a few weeks because of seasonal work. The only overlap would have been through messaging. Anyway i never responded to her and im not sure im in a hurry to Just to be clear. About 2 weeks ago i said i was nearly done work and id come and see her. Then she came with the old i cant deal with a relationship crap. And yhen she stopped responding. This week end i sent her a txt wishing her well and that i had started seeing someone else. Next day she got back and told me she had met someone too. I told her i could not be friends as i love her and i did not need the distraction and wished her well. I thought that was an end of it tbh Edited May 10, 2017 by an0nym0us123
Author an0nym0us123 Posted May 10, 2017 Author Posted May 10, 2017 Just to be exact she said she "was sorry that i felt that we could no longer be friends". And at the weekend i was telling her about the person i had met but i had said i had reservations about it. She sent a further message asking why i thought my new relationship might not work. Does she want me back? Im not sure i want her back even though i love her.
magnesium Posted May 10, 2017 Posted May 10, 2017 Cut her off. She is your ex. You don't owe her anything. Does it really matter what she does anymore?
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