heavenonearth Posted May 9, 2017 Posted May 9, 2017 I met a guy at a mutual friends' party and the next day he added me on FB and we started writing each other. After a few days, we decided to meet for a coffee - we had a really great conversation, and I was sad when I had to go home.. A few days after, I went to a movie night at our mutual friends' place where he was as well. And last weekend I invited him and some other friends over for snacks and drinks at my house. I'd say we now are friends. Now, when he was here this weekend, we sat on my roof for a bit, just the two of us, and he had his arm around me. Just like that. We were a bit tipsy, so I didn't think much of it. That was the one and only 'move' by him, though. Another thing was, that when I went to that movie night last week, I asked him for his phone so i can show him something on FB. He did not hesitate, and when I typed into the search bar, I saw his latest searches, and it had my profile right there and also the profile of my ex-boyfriend! This means he typed the name and specifically searched for his profile. I thought that was really odd. You would not do something like this unless you liked the girl, right? And I only mentioned my ex's name once to him, so I find it pretty crazy that he remembered it and lurked over his profile. These two instances let me believe that he may be interested in me other than friends. He has not flirted with me at all, but he writes me a lot and we have a dinner planned at my house (just the two of us) for coming Friday. I am thinking that perhaps he is not very flirty due to the way he was raised. He grew up in a very conservative, Muslim household. Albeit being a progressive and non-religious thinker, he is still very much influenced by their belief systems and adheres to their wishes, as he does not want to disappoint them. Perhaps that has him not be very blunt about who he likes romantically? Any thoughts on how I should proceed?
rester Posted May 9, 2017 Posted May 9, 2017 I think there is a high probability of him being interested although he may be shy and you may have to make the first move. 1
Author heavenonearth Posted May 9, 2017 Author Posted May 9, 2017 Oh, by the way, I just saw that I had a typo. When I write that he does not want to disappoint 'them', I mean, of course, his parents. And maybe I should mention I am a lot older than he is. I am 7 years older. We are in the same university though (I started quite late). I think that perhaps he is also a bit intimidated by my experience?
TaxMan Posted May 9, 2017 Posted May 9, 2017 I'd say there's definitely some level of interest, or he wouldn't be Facebook snooping on you and your ex. However, given his background, he may be hesitant to actually do anything about it. A dinner just the two of you at this stage, I think, is a clear romantic signal. If you feel comfortable doing so, I'd suggest making some kind of move and see how he responds. Then you'll have your answer. 1
preraph Posted May 9, 2017 Posted May 9, 2017 He's interested, but if he doesn't ask you out on a date, it's not good. He needs to be able to ask you out.
smackie9 Posted May 9, 2017 Posted May 9, 2017 Guys don't bother hanging out with girls they don't like....he accepted you dinner invitation, that's a pretty good indication he is interested. Guys are totally different when it comes to investing their time....girls will invest in a guy without romantic feelings while the majority of guys invest with romantic or sexual interest in mind.
d0nnivain Posted May 9, 2017 Posted May 9, 2017 With the 7 year age difference, you appear more worldly to a college boy. You may have to make the 1st move here. I'm not saying you have to ask him out but you will practically have to proverbially hit him upside the head with a 2x4 to signal to him that if he ramps up the courage to ask, you will say yes. 1
Author heavenonearth Posted May 9, 2017 Author Posted May 9, 2017 Ok, so I asked him to go out for drinks with me after the dinner (I live close to the city center), so that will maybe even lighten up the mood a bit. He remembered the name of my favorite bar and says he looks forward to pay for the drinks (since I invite him for dinner). May just be courtesy tho. Will see. I am so nervous, lol.
d0nnivain Posted May 9, 2017 Posted May 9, 2017 Relax. Concentrate on having a good time. It will be fine.
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