Jay2Kay Posted May 8, 2017 Posted May 8, 2017 It's been about a year since I work in my current company. There I met a girl from a more eastern culture than mine. At first I didn't think anything special of her as she really didn't fit what I normally go for in a girl. But as time passed, we got to spend more time together, traveling on business together, in groups after work. At work she came to sit to work next to me. She made allusion that what she was looking for in a man, was essentially my profile. Overtime I grew really attached to her, and in the past 2 months I have really been thinking about her a lot. I have been trying to spend time alone with her. I tried on a few occasions to invite her to do something on the weekend to no success. She usually doesn't like to do anything on the weekend unless it is a very special occasion but I was still expecting her to make some kind of effort. She always makes me feel that something might be possible between us by giving me some kind of extra attention, last she was going to save me some of her mom's cooking for only me to try. Today, she was trying to drag me along for Tennis while a the same time, I saw her chatting on tinder while she was sitting next to me. This makes me feel both angry and used. I am really not quite sure what to do.
Grey40 Posted May 8, 2017 Posted May 8, 2017 How did you ask her out? If you've tried multiple times with no success (meaning she turned down the offer) then I would just move on. It's highly advisable you don't get involved romantically with someone you work with. Usually doesn't work out
d0nnivain Posted May 8, 2017 Posted May 8, 2017 If she is willing to play tennis with you & share meals with you but not go on a real date on a weekend, I agree that she sees you as a buddy not a BF. If you want her as a GF, accept that is not what she wants & put a lot of distance in your friendship until there comes a time when being in her presence doesn't make you long for what you can't have.
MountainGirl111 Posted May 9, 2017 Posted May 9, 2017 Sounds like to me she could be stringing you along....but then again, maybe she sees you as a buddy more than a real boyfriend. If she was really into you as a boyfriend, she would take you up on doing something fun on the weekend. She'd look forward to time alone, not just someone to taste her mom's cooking. In fact, if she was really into you she'd cook something for you herself! She may enjoy knowing you are attracted to her and give her an ego boost of sorts, but doesn't sound like she's that into you. It's not a good idea to get involved with people you work with anyways. Not much good comes of that. Take care.
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