Candy Cane Posted August 1, 2005 Posted August 1, 2005 So...my ex and I have been talking lately. He's been very nice and attentive. Everything has been going really great. I was planning on going out with him tomorrow, per his request, but then I see that he's put up a new ad on a personals web site. I am really quite perturbed. So...I'm thinking that maybe I shouldn't bother with the date. Here I thought he was actually coming around...that he was beginning to appreciate me...finally...but now I see that he's actively looking. That he's still not taking us seriously at all. Any suggestions?
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted August 1, 2005 Posted August 1, 2005 My ex did that to me. He was back on a dating site within two days of us "taking a break" for a couple of weeks. And guess what? Six months later he cheated on me. My advice would be to run as fast as you can in the other direction of this guy.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 1, 2005 Posted August 1, 2005 so why are you talking to an EX ? Doesn't ex mean that you are not longer together and are able to persue someone else ?
Author Candy Cane Posted August 1, 2005 Author Posted August 1, 2005 Why am I still talking to him? Well, obviously I think that something is still there. I'm not exactly pursuing him. He's pursuing me.
TheBarnacle Posted August 1, 2005 Posted August 1, 2005 apparently you're not the ONLY one he's pursuing. suggestions? move on. unless you want to be part of the stable, go out and find yourself someone who's willing to be with you and you only (i'm assuming this is what you want, thus, the ex placing a personal ad bothers you).
lindya Posted August 1, 2005 Posted August 1, 2005 Without knowing you, Candy, it's difficult to know what to suggest. Would you feel happy in a situation whereby you and he carried on going out together sometimes, with the understanding that you weren't in an exclusive relationship - and were therefore BOTH free to see other people? Or is it likely that you'd devote all your feelings to him, not feel like seeing anyone else...and stress about him having other partners? If the latter is the case (and it does usually seem to be) then I think you need to stop having anything to do with him, because otherwise you'll just keep getting burned. Not to mention exposed to the risk of an STD if he isn't being careful.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 1, 2005 Posted August 1, 2005 Originally posted by Candy Cane Why am I still talking to him? Well, obviously I think that something is still there. I'm not exactly pursuing him. He's pursuing me. But does he ?? It sounds to me that he doesn't ...or he wouldn't be seeing other people.. My advice is " next "
Author Candy Cane Posted August 1, 2005 Author Posted August 1, 2005 Thanks for the help all. Everything's been taken care of. He was given the appropriate heave ho and a final "Buh bye."
MIBagent Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 It could be for a joke. Im gonna put up an ad for a women that whats to part of the first human cloning process
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