LotusAvx Posted May 7, 2017 Posted May 7, 2017 I work with this guy at my new job. The other night, he asked for my number after work, and wanted to get together later with his friend and my friends. I don't know if he likes me, but I would assume so since he got my number and wanted to meet up. His friend and him met my friends and I at the bar the other night. We all hung out and it was a good night. I really like his friend that he brought. And the next day, I saw his friend on a on-line dating site, and it said he recently viewed me! I want to message him, but I think his friend (the guy who asked for my number) likes me. So two questions: 1. Do you think this guy is interested since he asked for my number? 2. Should I message his friend?
d0nnivain Posted May 7, 2017 Posted May 7, 2017 He's probably interested but you aren't dating so you are free to message whomever you want. If that guy is a good, loyal friend he probably won't date you but you will never know if you don't try. 5
Erik30 Posted May 7, 2017 Posted May 7, 2017 1. Yes he probably likes you 2. Yes you can message his friend. Kinda sucks for that guy, but you don't owe him anything. 2
Miss Spider Posted May 7, 2017 Posted May 7, 2017 (edited) You owe him nothing and there's nothing wrong with you messaging his friend. But I do question the integrity of his "friend". Seems like a violation of bro code and he might not be receptive to it Edited May 7, 2017 by Cookiesandough Misread 2
Popsicle Posted May 7, 2017 Posted May 7, 2017 Message the friend and tell him that you like him! You must be direct and then let him decide what he's going to do. 2
joseb Posted May 7, 2017 Posted May 7, 2017 You owe him nothing and there's nothing wrong with you messaging his friend. But I do question the integrity of his "friend". Seems like a violation of bro code and he might not be receptive to it Yeah i would see it like that, but these days guys don't seem to be following the bro code very much. It will probably hurt the guy at work initially but as others pointed out you are not dating and he did ask you out in a group instead of a real date so... 2
smackie9 Posted May 8, 2017 Posted May 8, 2017 You go for whomever you want and don't let anyone stop you.
bubbaganoosh Posted May 8, 2017 Posted May 8, 2017 Long time ago my best friend was seeing a woman I never met before. One night I'm over and she was being a bit more then friendly and I was uncomfortable. I was able to get away and mingle but when I saw him the next day I told him. His friendship was more important then she was. I was able to tell him about it without causing a fuss and he was grateful that I told him. It didn't last long with between him and her anyhow but I wouldn't cross the line. 1
hercules22 Posted May 8, 2017 Posted May 8, 2017 i reckon the guy who likes u will be annoyed about it so his friend wont bother interacting with you
darkpink Posted May 8, 2017 Posted May 8, 2017 Yeah, I also think the guy who asked for your number likes you. And if it were me, I would also send a message to his friend that I like. Good luck to you.
Phoenician Posted May 8, 2017 Posted May 8, 2017 There is nothing wrong if you message the friend and start something ; the odd thing will be in the case things didn't work out with the new friend that you continue with the first man and meet all together with the other guy again and again . My opinion if this happen , withdraw from meeting both .
Phoenician Posted May 8, 2017 Posted May 8, 2017 Message the friend and tell him that you like him! You must be direct and then let him decide what he's going to do. I like you 1
PegNosePete Posted May 8, 2017 Posted May 8, 2017 Sure message the friend, why not? If you need to let the co-worker down gently then just tell him you don't date co-workers because it leads to awkward situations. 1
coolheadal Posted May 8, 2017 Posted May 8, 2017 I work with this guy at my new job. The other night, he asked for my number after work, and wanted to get together later with his friend and my friends. I don't know if he likes me, but I would assume so since he got my number and wanted to meet up. His friend and him met my friends and I at the bar the other night. We all hung out and it was a good night. I really like his friend that he brought. And the next day, I saw his friend on a on-line dating site, and it said he recently viewed me! I want to message him, but I think his friend (the guy who asked for my number) likes me. So two questions: 1. Do you think this guy is interested since he asked for my number? 2. Should I message his friend? You are free do do whatever you want to do.. Go for it and see what happens. When they ask for your number hell yeah they want to date you.. Second part yeah do it!
elaine567 Posted May 8, 2017 Posted May 8, 2017 You need to think of your job first and foremost. If this rejected co worker could make life difficult for you at work or even get you sacked, then I would think twice before contacting his friend. It is a new job for you, so you need to tread warily.
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