catdance62 Posted May 6, 2017 Posted May 6, 2017 I have been married my whole life. 3 marriages, back to back. no dating. now i'm single and have a couple of guys talking to me but it's confusing. One of them calls me his best friend, but we have sex on occasion and he says "i love you' sometimes and we hang out. i think he means love like the friend kind not the butterfly-and-rainbow kind. The other guy is also just a friend but we have sex on occasion. Both are competitive bodybuilders as am I. I am 54 and own a couple of successful businesses, but i look way younger than i am and these two are also much, much younger than me. Anyways, the first one i really like a lot, but idk if we are just FWBs? The other guy also races cars so i dont see him that often and i am not super into him. The first one recently kissed me goodbye in the gym in front of everyone in the pit and he kissed me goodbye when we were in a bar having a drink. He has a female roommate, but she is NOT attractive and even tho she gives him those Disney Princess eyes, he already had the "talk" with her about just being roommates and thats all etc. She is a nice person. I guess what i am getting at is IDk what 'dating' is, how to navigate all this stuff, etc. Right now I am just relaxing with all this, taking it all in, just trying to figure everything out and not get too wound up about anything, but its' hard because i have been a wife or SO for so long. Tell me about how people operate these days! What does all this mean? nothing? I mean, the last time i actually was on a date, cell phones weren't even invented LOL So obviously sexting is all new to me and the nuances of social media etc. Its all so confusing but i am doing the best I can. especially wiht these younger guys
mikeylo Posted May 6, 2017 Posted May 6, 2017 How did you get into 3 marriages back to back without dating ?
CptInsano Posted May 6, 2017 Posted May 6, 2017 Looking at your post I have no idea what you want. What are you looking for? That will probably determine if and how you should date. What you described sounds very casual, but I have no idea if that is by accident or not.
BaileyB Posted May 6, 2017 Posted May 6, 2017 Agreed. I have no idea what you are looking for after reading your post. And, I would respectfully suggest that you really don't seem to know what you are looking for either. Three consecutive marriages, a bunch of casual sexual relationships... It does seem that you move from one person to another without any idea of what you want or how to really define a relationship. Dating, looks very different depending on the boundaries set by the people involved and what they are looking for in the relationship. I'm not sure that there is an easy answer to your question...
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