ptopes13 Posted May 6, 2017 Posted May 6, 2017 My boyfriend and I broke up about 5 days ago because we argued a lot for awhile over the smallest things. I would overreact, but he would also not be able to emotionally express himself because he just hasn't had experience with expressing himself. He loves me but he broke up because things were too painful for him and he felt like he would not be able to overcome things. It's been five days, and my friend talked to him on facebook about all of this. He said it was too painful for him because he felt like he was the primary source of the arguments. She asked him if he would ever see himself with me again, and he said maybe but that he would have to change before he could consider it. He said he has some things to think about, like him maturing and our compatibility and he isn't sure which direction he will take. My friend suggested starting a friendship first, and that a good opportunity to start that would be to perhaps text me on my birthday in a few months since that is a good amount of space. I guess she was just trying to do what was best for us since we did have plenty of good times as well, and we were each others first serious relationships. At the birthday idea, he said "yeah, that's a good idea. I will think about it." I want us to reconcile, just not now because I want some time to work on myself. Lose some weight to get confidence, and to also find ways to control my temper. I just don't know if what he is saying about me to my friend shows any signs of hope for reconciliation in the future.
d0nnivain Posted May 6, 2017 Posted May 6, 2017 Stop Yes, break ups are painful. You can't imagine life without the other person & all you want are the good times back. Unfortunately that's not going to happen. If a relationship is meant to be, you fix what is not working before you get to the point of breaking up You also fix a relationship by working on it with your partner, not having a friend act an intermediary. Do not put your life on hold waiting for him to call you months from now on your birthday. Instead focus on your own healing. 1
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