Online Dating, Maximizers.

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Aziz Ansari: Love, Online Dating, Modern Romance and the Internet

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In theory, more options are better, right? Wrong. Psychology professor Barry Schwartz, famous for his 2004 book The Paradox of Choice, divided us into two types of people: “satisficers” (those who satisfy and then suffice) and “maximizers,” who seek out the best.

 

Thanks to smartphones and the Internet, our options are unlimited, whether it’s a retail item or a romantic possibility. We have all become maximizers.

 

...But people don’t always know what they’re looking for in a soul mate, unlike when they’re picking something easier, like laundry detergent."

 

I am a maximizer.

 

But I don't expect someone to encompass all the qualities I'm looking for, just a few core values and physical attraction and basic compatibility.

 

I just broke up with one too, and he and I pretty much reached the same conclusion, we'd both like to look elsewhere, we're not absolutely certain about eachother. We were at a phase in our relationship when the passion died off and we realized that we really liked the qualities we saw in eachother but there was no emotional spark-pull.

 

Online dating is the best and the worst.

Edited May 6, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator