melinda1 Posted May 5, 2017 Posted May 5, 2017 Hello everyone, Long time no see. My ex and I broke up approximately one and a half years ago because he got a job in another country and moved there. Since then, we had our "hot and cold" periods, but we stayed in touch and texted each other very often. He always texted me first. Anyways, he came back in our hometown a few days ago and immediately contacted me. Yesterday he sent me some drunk messages where he said that he wants to meet me. I didn't know that he was drunk because he used to do that often. I texted him today to confirm our deal, but he said that he forgot about our appointment and apologized. He also said that he has some other things to do. I felt a sharp stab of disappointment and was really angry at myself. I told him that he should delete my number and stop texting me from now on. He didn't replied. The thing is, I still love him. But I'm not able to justify his behavior. What should I do?
d0nnivain Posted May 5, 2017 Posted May 5, 2017 What do you want to do? If the only reason you broke up was because he moved to another country but now he's back, what is now keeping you apart? If you still love him it would seem that you would want to reconcile. The fact that he drunk texted you but forgot about another appointment, doesn't seem to match your statement that you still love him. He made an understandable drunken mistake. Instead of accepting that explanation you cut him out of your life. What you did sober seems rather rash. Granted it would have been nice if his explanation came with an apology & a request to reschedule but your behavior seems an over the top reaction. He probably has no idea what you want because you are not acting like you have a clue. So, figure out what you want & do that. If you want him gone, fine, delete & block him everywhere. If you want to reconcile tell him that. If you want him to come crawling after you, come up with a new plan because he's not a mind reader.
Author melinda1 Posted May 5, 2017 Author Posted May 5, 2017 @d0nnivain Thank you so much for your answer! Yes, the only reason we broke up was because he moved to another country. However, he will return there in a few days. He only came to visit his parents. Regarding your question; I would want to reconcile, but that's not possible. Therefore I want him to come crawling after me, but I don't have a plan. It's a complicated situation.
d0nnivain Posted May 5, 2017 Posted May 5, 2017 Sorry I misunderstood. I thought he was home for good. If he's going back then the problem still exists & unless one of you wants to relocate it seems insurmountable.
Kitchen Posted May 5, 2017 Posted May 5, 2017 So you think reconciling is not possible, but you still want him to crawl after you full well knowing that those efforts would go to waste? He'd likely be hurt over it, but that doesn't matter because you would get a nice ego boost. Am I reading this right? If reconciling, as you say, is impossible, then I say go NC. It'll help both of you.
Author melinda1 Posted May 5, 2017 Author Posted May 5, 2017 The main problem at the moment is the fact that I told him to delete my number. Although he didn't do it, I'm really disappointed because he didn't even tried to fix this situation. I know I had a stupid reaction, but still, he could at least try to reschedule our meeting. I'm not sure what to do now.
Author melinda1 Posted May 5, 2017 Author Posted May 5, 2017 So you think reconciling is not possible, but you still want him to crawl after you full well knowing that those efforts would go to waste? He'd likely be hurt over it, but that doesn't matter because you would get a nice ego boost. Am I reading this right? If reconciling, as you say, is impossible, then I say go NC. It'll help both of you. I've said that because he doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship. We broke up long time ago, but we stayed in touch.
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