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I am a freshmen in highschool, and so is she.

 

I think she's got the looks, the personality, and the smarts

 

I really like her, but the problem is we don't have any classes with each other.

 

Thankfully, I had Summer School with her in the beginning of the year (to get ahead), and we talked a few times. In addition, she had requested me on IG earlier this year, so I think she knows who I am.

 

We occasionally glance at each other even when we're with friends (I don't think this means anything).

 

So, my problem is what do I say with her, when I catch her alone (I'm not going to talk to her when she has her friends around, because it is a lot harder)

 

I thought of, "Hey what's up, I'm Josh, I've seen you around, what's your name?"

 

Would that be awkward?

 

Thank you so much guys, please help .

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Dude you score huge points when you go and talk to her with her friends...but you also talk with her friends is the key part. Just introduce yourself, get their names, crack a joke, ask what everyone has been up to etc. If you score big with her friends, that will give you more potential to be her BF. Remember a lot of girls depend on their friends for approval, especially when it comes to guys.

 

Or you can pass her a note in class when you have summer school....tell her she's cute.

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If I talk to her while she's with friends, it's a lot harder to talk to her especially when I don't know her or her friends. And does saying you're cute sound awkward or creepy?

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If you keep thinking you are being creepy then you will come off as creepy. I'm just thinking back to when guys would hit on me. I always wished they had confidence.....try and be more confident and sure of yourself. A guy that was too nervous to just talk to me or ask for my name, was a turn off. Girls want a man, not a week in the knees little boy.

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Your plan is great! Put it into action.

 

 

If you can manage to be brave enough to talk to her with her friends that would be mighty impressive but maybe that level of bravery can wait until sophomore year.

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I can tell you an experience I had that really impressed me.

 

I was sitting with my friend waiting for class to start, when this guy walks in, points to me and says his name while he writes it in huge letters on the chalkboard and walks out. I thought wow he did that for me? The confusing part was, he never followed through after that. I think I was in grade 9 when that happened. I'm 53 and that has stuck with me for all these years.

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If you keep thinking you are being creepy then you will come off as creepy. I'm just thinking back to when guys would hit on me. I always wished they had confidence.....try and be more confident and sure of yourself. A guy that was too nervous to just talk to me or ask for my name, was a turn off. Girls want a man, not a week in the knees little boy.

 

Alright, so complimenting her eyes would be good?

 

What would I say

 

"Hey, what's up, I'm Josh. Whats your name?"

 

She replies with her name

 

and then I say btw you have nice eyes?

 

 

And wow that guy on the blackboard had a lot of confidence haha

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Your plan is great! Put it into action.

 

 

If you can manage to be brave enough to talk to her with her friends that would be mighty impressive but maybe that level of bravery can wait until sophomore year.

 

Thanks haha, but I don't know if I would talk to her while she's with friends. It's harder to talk to her and I don't know any of them that much

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Women don't like that guy who tries to shut her friends out or is so scared that he can't go up to you if your friend is there. You need to get over that and learn to just say hi to the whole group a couple of times and gauging her reaction before you go up to the group and turn your attention to her.

 

There's no need to compliment her. It's kind of just focusing on her physically, and no one wants to think that's all you're about.

 

Just start saying hi to the group and to her or asking if they're going to some school thing. At some point, if she is liking you, you'll end up talking to her. You don't have to "come on" to her with compliments. At your age, just talking and being friendly should be enough, and then if she seems friendly back, which it sounds like she has been in the past, ask her or even the group to some school thing or whatever. If you see her in the hall, then just fall in line walking with her and talking. Good luck

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Start with the Hi I'm Josh part. When she responds with her name, be bashful & confess that you know. That will tell her you have had your eye on her.

 

 

Ask about her plans for the weekend, the summer etc. Talk about something going on at school . . . Do you think we'll win the championship? Are you getting a yearbook? Do you know [teacher] is retiring / having a baby?

 

 

Wait until you have said a few paragraphs to each other before you compliment her eyes. If it's the 2nd sentence out of your mouth, yes that will be a little creepy because it's too abrupt.

 

 

Take a few calming breaths before you talk to her. Remember everyone is nervous. Picture it going well in your head. Even if there are flubs, she will see how cool & brave you were for trying.

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Start with the Hi I'm Josh part. When she responds with her name, be bashful & confess that you know. That will tell her you have had your eye on her.

 

 

Ask about her plans for the weekend, the summer etc. Talk about something going on at school . . . Do you think we'll win the championship? Are you getting a yearbook? Do you know [teacher] is retiring / having a baby?

 

 

Wait until you have said a few paragraphs to each other before you compliment her eyes. If it's the 2nd sentence out of your mouth, yes that will be a little creepy because it's too abrupt.

 

 

Take a few calming breaths before you talk to her. Remember everyone is nervous. Picture it going well in your head. Even if there are flubs, she will see how cool & brave you were for trying.

 

I was thinking of saying Hey, I'm Josh, what's your name

 

then when she responds I'll say

 

Oh I remember you from Summer School! It feels good to get that over with huh? (and start convo there)

 

Problem is I feel that's too creepy or that she'll say that she doesn't remember me. Should I just stay away from that?

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Women don't like that guy who tries to shut her friends out or is so scared that he can't go up to you if your friend is there. You need to get over that and learn to just say hi to the whole group a couple of times and gauging her reaction before you go up to the group and turn your attention to her.

 

There's no need to compliment her. It's kind of just focusing on her physically, and no one wants to think that's all you're about.

 

Just start saying hi to the group and to her or asking if they're going to some school thing. At some point, if she is liking you, you'll end up talking to her. You don't have to "come on" to her with compliments. At your age, just talking and being friendly should be enough, and then if she seems friendly back, which it sounds like she has been in the past, ask her or even the group to some school thing or whatever. If you see her in the hall, then just fall in line walking with her and talking. Good luck

 

 

Look what I said above

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I was thinking of saying Hey, I'm Josh, what's your name

 

then when she responds I'll say

 

Oh I remember you from Summer School! It feels good to get that over with huh? (and start convo there)

 

Problem is I feel that's too creepy or that she'll say that she doesn't remember me. Should I just stay away from that?

 

 

You are on the right track but let me refine it for you:

 

 

You: Hi. I'm Josh

 

 

Her: I'm [name]

 

You: {bashfully} I know

 

 

If she smiles, just go forward. If she looks perplexed, then you say: We met last year in summer school. How's it going?

 

 

Her: [answers your Q]

 

 

Then you just move the conversation along.

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I was thinking of saying Hey, I'm Josh, what's your name

 

then when she responds I'll say

 

Oh I remember you from Summer School! It feels good to get that over with huh? (and start convo there)

 

Problem is I feel that's too creepy or that she'll say that she doesn't remember me. Should I just stay away from that?

say....."I'm trying to remember whether or not you were in there with me in summer school....." "Are you that same girl?" She will say YES!

 

You have to word it so her only answer is yes...

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be bashful...

 

Her: I'm [name]

 

You: {bashfully} I know.

 

Why do you want him to act shy?

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I was thinking of saying Hey, I'm Josh, what's your name

 

then when she responds I'll say

 

Oh I remember you from Summer School! It feels good to get that over with huh? (and start convo there)

 

Problem is I feel that's too creepy or that she'll say that she doesn't remember me. Should I just stay away from that?

 

I think that's a fine conversation starter. And yes, so tell her you remember her from summer school. I mean, it's unlikely she would say "I don't remember you." If the case is that she does not remember you, she will probably say "Oh, really?" Not the best news because girls remember guys they are interested in, but it could be a bluff because she doesn't want to say "Oh, yes, I remember you" or is caught offguard. Anyway, if that happens, just say, "Well, I just wanted to introduce myself. I'm sure I'll be seeing you around."

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Hi, do you think I will ever get a girlfriend?

I'm a freshman and never had one.

Anyways, I was told by a girl I was good looking and had "glowed up" since last year, and she said that a lot of her friends said I was hot (which I think she lied about, but she seemed serious so idk). I'm a bit shy, but I'm going to try to push myself out of that zone. Tomorrow I will try talking to the girl I like, but I fear rejection. Any advice?

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Yes. You will have a girlfriend.

 

No advice.

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You will def get a girlfriend. I can tell youre adorable just from your post. :)

 

My advice is to be friendly and smile, to everyone, not just the girls.

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Be confident in yoself n its a negative way to think like that. Believe in yoself bruh

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Definitely!!!

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My daughter is in HS too. From watching her friends, it seems the most common age for people to start getting boyfriends is from about 17. There will be some who start later and some who start earlier...but it's pretty early for you still.

 

Once you're about 16, the best thing to do is have girls in your group at school. Don't view them as potential girlfriends, but simply as friends. It's SO important to learn how to talk with women and these girls will be where you learn. Also, are you in any extracurricular activities at school which are mixed gender? Music, Drama, Student Council, etc? Again, a great space to get comfortable with girls.

 

If you can be friends with girls, you'll get a girlfriend.

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I'm 15 freshman in highschool

 

I like this girl and have no classes, but I am going to try to talk to her somewhere this week when I find a situation.

 

I had Summer School with her (to skip classes) in the beginning of the year.

 

I am going to go up to her and say

 

"Hey I am Josh, It's nice to meet you, what's your name"

Then she will respond with her name and I'll say

"Hey, didn't you have summer school this year, you seem familiar"

She'll say yeah (probably)

Then I will say

"Well it feels nice to get (class) over with doesnt it, (laugh)"

She will probably say yes

and then I will say anyways, it's nice to meet you. See you around

 

Thanks guys, please

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I think the more you plan out what you're going to say, the more likely you'll come across less authentic, or kinda stumble over your words.

 

I would keep the first conversation more simple. Just say a simple hi in the hallway.

then next time round, say hi again like before and then say "hey, dont i know you from summer school? you look really familiar?"

 

and each day, or few days, add more to the conversation.

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