Crosswords Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 Hey all, So I started seeing a new woman (let's call her sarah) We were introduced by a friend about 1 month ago. And we instantly had a connection and things in common. The interaction lasted about 15 minutes with my friend who was in the room too. It was all very relaxed. Last Friday my friend invites me out for drinks with herself and sarah and Sarah's guy friend (just a friend) John. We have a great time and me and sarah click again from the start and later start to flirt heavily. She asks for my number by passing me her phone. I end up sitting by her and we touch many times and it's all natural. We change venues 2 more times and eventually our other friends head home. Sarah invites me back to her place and I end up staying the night. We didn't have sex (we both said let's take things slow) but we did makeout heavily and touch each other underneath our underwear. The next morning we cuddle and make out all morning. I eventually head home. Sunday rolls around and we plan to meet up for at 7:30. We go to a restaurant and have beers and stay until they kick us out. I think it was like 10:30? We kiss in the restaurant and ended up with arms around each other kind of cuddling in a booth next to the window. She grabs a co-op car and drives me back home before she goes back to hers. When she drops me off we make out and it was great. We've been texting all week here and there and have plans for Saturday to go for a hike. My question is this: She just moved in to a new apartment last Thursday. 1 day before I came over. We have mutual interest - both stated we like each other. And I want to get her a little plant (a succulent) with a very stylish concrete pot. It's a really nice pit and plant. Is it too soon to get her a housewarming gift like this or will it be well received? the gift would be about $25 Let me know your thoughts! Thanks!
bluefeather Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 Idk man... Some people might say go for it, but she did say to take it slow. It seems like you're doing well so far with the dates. I might hold back on something like that, as a plant, or any kind of gift like it can look very sentimental - which can be a good thing for a relationship, but not for early-stage dating. Just my take, of course.
smackie9 Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 You buy her something if it was for a house warming party. You need to pull back on your excitement and just let things go at the pace it is at. You guys are just being infatuated.....give her flowers when the romantic part of your relationship (exclusivity) starts. She knows that you both are really digging each other...you don't need gifts for that.
MajesticUnicorn Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 I would either wait till you have a few more dates, or she hosts a housewarming party. Maybe go with a nice bottle of wine or something a little more casual.
d0nnivain Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 A housewarming plant is fine. Don't go getting her matching dishes or a new washer dryer but 1 small plant is a lovely gesture. 3
Author Crosswords Posted May 4, 2017 Author Posted May 4, 2017 I know she knows I dig her. I don't think my gesture of wanting to get her a little plant is crazy though. Or comes off weird as it's different than a bouquet of flowers. To me it's kind of about timing. I don't know if she will have a party or not, and by the time the fourth or fifth date rolls around that initial buzz of a new place will be gone. But if I strike now it seems right. Getting her a little plant seems super sweet and will most likely be well received, based on how great and intimate our interactions Have been. And every time I've said 'I had a great time with you', or 'I'm looking forward to seeing you' she reciprocates it. On our last date she said 'I can't believe how similar we are'. And it's true we have a ridiculous amount of things in common. It's kind of crazy. Would a stylish little plant throw this all off and make me seem clingy and weird? I'm really just being warm and thoughtful
Telemachus Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 It's a gift of nominal value. There's no question, and no need for all of the detail. Give the gift. My advice and assessment would be the same if you were proposing this gift for your dentist who just filled a cavity. She'll accept it or not. If she doesn't accept it, then it's yours. This is true for every gift of nominal value. Quit making such a something out of nothing. If it's your last $25 and you're homeless, then there'd be a question. I don't see one. The gift you propose could be for an ex, professional colleague, new romantic interest, or total stranger. It's a plant, not a sex toy or engagement ring. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 Would a stylish little plant throw this all off and make me seem clingy and weird? I'm really just being warm and thoughtful It depends on the attitude you project when you give it to her. Confident because you like the idea of doing something nice for her & you like her & aren't afraid to show it will be just fine. If you are like "gee whiz, aw shucks, dopey dopey duh. . . I hope you like it cause you know I really like you & oh, boy, oh boy if you don't like me too, that would be so very very awful" . . . that attitude will make you look like a cling-on & the gift would be odd. 1
bluefeather Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 Would a stylish little plant throw this all off and make me seem clingy and weird? I'm really just being warm and thoughtful You just asked the same question. Are you expecting a different answer? Insanity! 1
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