breaking up with boyfriend and he doesn't accept it.

[madag7_m]

i'm 23 and i wanna end a 3 year relationship. we're so different people and he's too emotional and sensitive and act too emotional with every little issue, i don't have feelings for him anymore, we haven't seen each other for a 2 3 month and i thought he got the point, but he didn't take it too well and threat to kill himself or resign his job and move to another city and then he talked crazy and said something like he was in sleep and saw a dream about i'm breaking up with him and who am i, i'm not his girlfriend and the next morning he said he doen't understand me and he doesn't want a breakup, i told him it's my decision and he start to blame me and threat again... shat shoul i do?

[basil67]

If he's threatening to harm himself, call police or an ambulance. Or you could share what he's saying with his best mate. Otherwise, you need to block him from contacting you.

 

He is not your problem anymore.

[madag7_m]

how should i heal after something like this...

this was my first and longest relatinship

[d0nnivain]

If you want out, break up with him. You don't have to scream & yell but you do need to be clear & firm. Ghosting somebody for 2-3 months of not talking is not a proper way to end a 3 year relationship. It's just immature & cruel.

 

 

Tell him it's over.

 

 

If he threatens to kill himself call the police. If you know his friends & family inform them of the threats so they can keep an eye on him. Threatening suicide is a form of emotional manipulation. You can't stay with him just so he won't kill himself. If he does take his own life you have to accept that was his decision; you did not cause him to act like this. Do get help if it happens because you will feel misplaced guilt.

 

 

How do you heal from this? Meaning the break up? Too much healing shouldn't be required for you because you are the one who wanted out. If you are asking how to heal from his emotional blackmail, that may require counseling.