grokcahsevol Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 This actually came up between myself (male) and my female friend. She thinks I should pick the girl up on the first date, while I feel like it would be best for us to take our own transportation and meet. The reason for this is, if the girl feels like the date isn't going well, she is free to leave on her own terms. However, on the other hand, she mentioned it would be more gentleman like to pick her up from her house. Which I also agree with. What does everyone think?
NomiMalone Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 From a female perspective, my preference would be to meet there. Personally, I'm not comfortable with letting someone I don't know well know my address. 2
Tressugar Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 Meet there. A combination of both what the OP said as well as the first poster is accurate. 1. A quick get away in her vehicle. 2. Safety reasons after all you are a stranger.
GemmaUK Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 It depends, if I know him pretty well and have done for some time I'm OK with him picking me up. If we're talking someone from online then no way will he pick me up - I'll make my own way to the date. 2
act00 Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 If it's someone I met online or is not someone I do not know, I would prefer to have my own transportation. One would be safety and another would be the ability to cut it short if things don't go well. If it's someone I know and we've been talking already and have good rapport, picking up would be totally fine.
d0nnivain Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 The classic & more romantic scenario is the guy picks up the girl With the advent of OLD, since that involves a 1st meet between strangers, basic safety dictates you meet there. As a guy you can offer & let the woman tell you that she would prefer to meet you there. Especially if you know the woman already & safety isn't a concern, not picking her up looks lazy & uncaring on your part. 1
Ami1uwant Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 The only time for a first or second date house pick up is when you had an established relationship with the person already....like frirnds, coworkers, buddies ex gf.
OatsAndHall Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 I will always meet someone on a first date. I want the flexibility to leave when I want if things go south. I can't imagine picking a few of the women I have dated up from their place and having to drive them home..
SevenCity Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 I will always meet someone on a first date. I want the flexibility to leave when I want if things go south. I can't imagine picking a few of the women I have dated up from their place and having to drive them home.. Exactly. You have to think of YOUR getaway! Some of the women I dated were just dreadful. I was thankful I didn't have to suffer through a ride home. I speak mostly of OLD dates. If you know her through work or social circles picking up is the right thing to do. Hell, even if you just met them once you know 100 times more than someone from OLD.
BaileyB Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 I always meet a man for the first few dates. I am not comfortable driving anywhere with a man or telling them where I live until I have met them a few times - it's nothing more than a safety precaution.
Dis Posted May 5, 2017 Posted May 5, 2017 When I first started dating I thought it was a good idea for the guy to pick me up. It kind of seemed romantic and like the guy was a gentleman. We'd have our first amazingggg kiss right outside my door when he dropped me off Eh...not so realistic for many reasons. First, I dont want a guy knowing where I live right away. Second, what if I'm not feeling him (or vice versa) and we're stuck together...then the awkward car ride home Meet her there. If the date goes well...you can ride in on your white horse pick her up another time
mortensorchid Posted May 5, 2017 Posted May 5, 2017 Depends, how did you meet her? If it's OLD, I would obviously not let this person pick me up. If it's someone you met otherwise, I'd be better letting him pick me up, but ... We live in a world where you have to be careful with others. So ... Probably best to meet at a designated place.
preraph Posted May 5, 2017 Posted May 5, 2017 I think you should always offer to pick her up, but some women may not want you to on the first date. But this one does, so you definitely should.
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