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Ok heres the deal...I am 20 years old. I have lived in the same town my whole life. I am at a point in my life where something has just got to change. I was going to college for a little while and i took last semester off. I am now working for my mom and my step dad at their law office here. I am training to be a paralegal. BLAH! I do not want to do this at all. I hate it. I go to work Mon-Fri 8:30 to 5:30 I feel I am missing out on soo much. I have wanted to just get up and move away for sometime now. I have come to the conclusion there isnt a right time. You just have to do it. I feel there is nothing for me around here. If I make this decision I know my parents will not agree but it is my life and I dont like where I am right now. There is so much I want to do. I know I have plenty of time but I am tired of wasting time around here. I want to travel and see different places. I want to live in a totally different place. I want to meet all new people and just start over. I just do not know where to start and everytime I talk to my mom about it she says "Well Jaime I think you need to stay here and learn skills in this job...It is such a great opportunity." Whatever. I want more. I need some advice...Maybe from someone who has done it or anything. I am soooo indecisive right now about everything. I want to go explore my options. Some advice on this one would be very appreciative.

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Your parents are being practical. You are having that restless feeling of wanting to be on our own and do your own thing. It is called growing up. if the paralegal thing is not your bag then you need to decide what interests you. This is your life and you have to live it. Your parents can give you advice but they cannot live your life.

 

At 20 you can choose many avenues to explore and the world is one big playground. You have so many options so take your time and decide what it is you want to do. You will make mistakes but that is part of growing up. If you find this isn't working out for you then change. This the luxury of being 20. When you get married or older the changes you can make are limited because you have to take in to account more than just yourself. Enjoy this time in your life.

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Usually the easiest thing to do is to go to a GOOD college far far away from mom and dad and focus on a degree that interests you AND will help YOUR career. This way you satisfy everyone, and esp. you! Anyway, for some people, college isn't their thing, and they may seek more freedom; if you think you fit into those shoes then you could look into a lot of other options from joining the peace corps. to just finding a job and working or joining the Navy. Eventually you'll find it may have been more overblown and like me you may end up back in your home town slowly turning into your parents. lol. Obviously the road they have setup FOR YOU isn't feeling like an independent choice, maybe you should approach them with that fact and tell them you want something else. If I were to guess, you have overbearing parents which has it's ups like they do your laundry and downs like they make career choices for you...

 

Good luck, give us details!

 

 

ps. being a paralegal at age 21 is impressive but it can certianly wait if you ever wanted to do it later.

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